I am a widow mom of a single mom

Terry - posted on 05/26/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I need understanding in how much is enough help VS enabling?

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Michelle - posted on 05/27/2016

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That is enabling.
She's an adult and she needs to learn to live within her means. The only way she will do that is by having to pay for herself and the children. You paying so much out and providing a roof over her head isn't helping her.
If you need to downsize then let her know she will have to get her own place so you can find something more manageable.
There comes a time that the children have to leave and make their own life. That's why we teach them all the skills they need while growing up.

Jodi - posted on 05/27/2016

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Your daughter needs to be contributing financially. Right now, if she is not paying any household expenses or even for her phone, then you are actually enabling her. Draw up a contract for her to pay rent and spell out the expenses she must pay.

Terry - posted on 05/27/2016

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My daughter and 2 grandchildren have been living with me for the last 5 yrs, never paying anything toward and housing expenses electric , water or even cell phone (4 yrs). She is working and now has car payment and insurance and some groceries. I need to down size and I am dealing with stage 4 cancer. Too much

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