I am almost 10 weeks pregnant

Catherine - posted on 09/24/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

6

0

1

But the father who I am not naming on the birth certificate is already shaking up with someone who went through menopause already and supposedly they are getting married in January and he wants custody but he wanted an abortion after I told him so I need all the advise I can get. I am working with Birthright right now and I always get nervous but especially because he just told me this crap last night in a text and I want to block his number and not give him any rights. He had a vasectomy and thought it was a miracle and now he wants custody, fat chance abortion seeker

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Jodi - posted on 09/24/2015

3,560

36

3907

I'm not sure what her having already been through menopause has to do with anything. It simply makes you sound angry and bitter.

The fact is, a simple DNA test and he can have that birth certificate altered anyway, so really, not putting him on the birth certificate just comes across as petty. It certainly doesn't give you any advantages, and it is definitely not an act that demonstrates you are thinking of the child.

If he wants some level of custody, he has that right - he actually has just as much right as you do. You don't have the right to decide whether or not he has any rights. If he chooses to go for custody, he can. And in this day and age, he is highly likely to get some level of custody and visitation. So you should prepare yourself for that now. The courts come at these kind of situations with the belief that it is in the best interests of the child to have a relationship with BOTH parents.

This conversation has been closed to further comments

9 Comments

View replies by

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2015

13,258

21

2015

"We are not married, and he's marrying a bimbo"...So what? Marriage is not a requirement for kids. Who he has decided to marry is up to him, as well.

Birthright is advising you not to? Who is birthright, and what right do they have to tell you to illegally attempt to rescind the rights of a biological parent?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2015

13,258

21

2015

It is not up to YOU whther or not the father of the child has rights. He has rights, as a biological parent, the same as you will once the child is born.
You'd better watch your attitude about it, because a judge can sense that animosity, and you can be dinged for not fostering a relationship between the child and it's father, which is parental alienation.
What you NEED to do now is get an attorney, and get proceedings started for custody, support and visitation. Remember, it is not up to YOU, because the child will not be your possession.

Dove - posted on 09/24/2015

11,680

0

1349

You get a DNA test when your baby is born... If he's the father he goes on the birth certificate and you go to court for custody, visitation, and child support to be sorted out. Period. None of the rest of your post matters because if he IS the father... he has just as much of a right to the child as you do UNLESS a court proves him unfit.

Catherine - posted on 09/24/2015

6

0

1

no she is jealous because I am younger than her but so is he
I am not bitter at all

Catherine - posted on 09/24/2015

6

0

1

I am disabled and I get more money because of that, he is trying to make me have a miscarriage and the bleed is making me think I might

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2015

8,728

0

21

Look, to not put the father's name on the BC when you know who he is is fraud! Also, if he gets disabled or dies your child becomes eligible for benefits. YOU do not have the right to not name him, unless you want to face charges. Put his name on the BC file for child support and if he wants visitation or custody; face that when it happens. Even if you leave his name of the document, he can petition for a DNA test and add himself to the BC. Follow the law and do the right thing by your child.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms