I am also a wife of a molester

Mrs. Anonymous - posted on 07/30/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband molested his 15 year old step daughter, she has known him since she was three. He was arrested and been in jail for four months now, he asked me to tell the prosecutor nothing ever happened and he refuses to admit to me that it happened. I believe my daughter, he has abused me many times in front of her. I am sick over this situation because of how he is still portraying like nothing happened but did say he grinded her as an example of what a boy would do to her. I love my child and my husband and prayed for our family daily up until this took place. How can I put this hurt behind me???? I feel like I can't move on at times because of the pain when I look at my daughter.


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KatieMorris - posted on 07/30/2016




This sounds like a very tough situation. I am very sorry to hear that you and your daughter have to go through this. I wish as humans we were able to turn on and off our feelings but sadly we can't. I know you are hurting but I think you need to focus on your 15 year old daughter right now. Possibly sign up for mother daughter counseling or join a community group for sexually abused teens. As time passes it will get easier to put the hurt behind you. I really suggest getting out to a book store and purchasing a book for you both especially for your daughter since she is the victim.

Dove - posted on 07/30/2016




Cut off all contact w/ him and seek some counselng (if you aren't in it already). Is she in counseling already? I'm sorry this happened to your family. I think the best way for you to start to heal is to have zero contact w/ him from this point forward.

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