BARB - posted on 11/19/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
Was wondering if anyone has had any dealings like this before, we have custody of my husbands 14 yr old granddaughter and have had her now 2 yrs. She makes straight A's in school, I never get bad reports from school, she likes school. I know she has had a rough early life before us, with rotten parents and such. It seems though that in the past 6 to 9 months she forgets her chores that she does on a daily basis and when she does them ( some every other day) she was forgetting which clothes she wore during the week so she would end up wearing the same thing more than once so I had to start picking out her clothes for her and putting them on a hanger that is marked the day of the week. She has to be reminded of everything to do, she will start out to say gather the trash to take out and she will get it out of the rooms and bring it and sit in down in the floor and walk off and leave it sitting there and go on outside to do her chores. She starts one thing and usually doesn't finish it before she moves onto another thing and doesn't realize she has done it. She has to be told so many times and showed so many times the same thing that she has been doing now for 2 yrs that it is just becoming so overwhelming that its starting to cause problems. She kinda acts like she doesn't care like our bathroom floor has been soaked many times here recently and she has blamed it on my 22 yr son or her little 10 yr old sister who comes to visit, and I proved her wrong the other night by going in there right after she came out of the shower and the floor had water standing in it, bc she will say its not me or I didn't do it. I have been trying to tell her that the tub will fall through the floor if it doesn't stop and I am not getting through, and mind you we have a new trailer that is only 4 going on 5 yrs old, and I have had at one time 4 different ppl stay with me and use that bathroom and never had water in the floor until now. It's like when she isn't the center of attention or everything isn't her way then things start happening. I have tried to explain she will never be the only person there is here bc there is other grandkids and then my boys in which one is in the Marines and does tours, so he means quite a bit to me, and my oldest one lives her also and he means a lot as well, and so does she but she thinks she should be the only one, and I'm sorry but I don't work like that. Is there anyone who has had anything similar to this. I have gotten almost everything she has asked for like she wanted a horse when we first got her, but she doesn't want to do the chores and she doesn't remember things well enough for me to turn her loose by herself with the horse. Help please, where or how do I find out what's going on with her?