I am feeling very low energy and depressed in my second trimester, anyone experience this?

MJ - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi, this is my 6th pregnancy, I have 3 children I had live births with. I have never really felt "depressed" in my life. I am in my second trimester, I has terrible nausea and migraines for the first 16 weeks, and was in the hospital 3 or 4 times getting IV b/c of this. My Grandmother, who I have always been very close to passed away this summer and just 6 weeks after her death my cousin who I grew up with was killed in a hit and run, he was only 22 years old. My husband has struggled with a pornography addiction in the past and I recently discovered he has looked at it at least once since I've been pregnant, (we are Christians and neither of us are OK with the use of pornography, so it's not something he feels is acceptable either). My husband also has an anger problem and yells very loud at me and sometimes the children too. He isn't physically abusive but I would say verbally abusive. We haven't been getting along lately and I find him very distant and not emotionally supportive during this pregnancy. I feel so alone and don't know where to turn. It's getting to the point the last few days I haven't been eating properly and have been having extremely low energy. Is this hormonal or situational? Should I be speaking with someone about all this? My midwife? My doctor?
Sorry to make this so long I worry about the effects on my unborn baby from my low mood and stress level.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/28/2011




Oh man. I am so sorry about the recent passing of your grandmother and cousin. How difficult it is to deal with death without pregnancy hormones raging. I am so sorry.

Yes, I do think you should talk to your midwife about this. I also think that you should investigate a marriage counselor to help you and your husband sort out your differences. No one deserves to be abused. Emotional abuse can be just as bad if not worse than physical. My heart goes out to you. But it is time to get some help. You have an awful lot on your plate. Usually the second trimester you feel your best. I really hope you find some answers soon. Also, pregancy does not help make us look and feel sexy (although I do think preggo women are georgous....it is just hard feeling that way being pregnant) then add porno on top of it (if you are not into it which you said you are not) can cause even more self confidence issues. Best of luck, but truly seek professional help.

Dianne - posted on 09/28/2011




hi MJ sorry to hear you have so much on your plate at the moment and i cant really give much advice apart form maybe talk to a doctor about it, i found myself really low and had no energy for ages that lasted way past my morning sickness and through a blood test it was found i had very low levels of vit D, now that i am on supplements i suddenly feel heaps better so that or some other deficiency might be making you feel terrible, i knew i wasnt getting in the sun enough but didnt realise just how little it was and im not great at eating a great diet either so have to make sure i keep up with the prenatal vitamins
hope things look up for you soon

Nikki - posted on 09/27/2011




I am sorry MJ, it sounds like you have a lot going on, it's understandable you are feeling down. I had pre natal depression with my daughter and my biggest fear was that it would impact her personality. I am thankful to say that it hasn't appeared to impact her :)

If I were you I would talk to your midwife or doctor and look into see a psychologist and maybe some couple counselling for you and your husband.

I hope you feel better soon :)

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