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I have been with my fiancé now for 5 years. His son has been a problem child from a young age. His family blames it on his ex-wife which leaves a lot to be desired if I can put it mildly. His son lived with him from the age of about 7. The moment I met this child I knew there was a problem. He would give endless problems at school and his father was called in about at least 3 to 4 times a month. He would not do his homework. When I starting checking his homework he hadn't worked in his books for almost 8 months! Asking his teachers they said they have given up. I helped him catch up and arranged with his dad to get him a tutor. After swearing the tutor and pretending for hours on end that he is doing his homework she refused to help us. He would steal at school and is a bully. He then proceeded to steal from me (my previous wedding ring, watch and necklace) and pawned it and bought cigarettes. He stole from my daughters also. He continued stealing until his Dad had enough and he moved back with his mom. His behaviour just escalated and went from killing small animals (cats) to lying, to failing his grades, making improper sexual advances to girls, smoking, smoking cannabis, drinking, to intimidating teachers and stealing, to finally threatening a teacher and he was once again asked to leave the school he is in (this was over the past 4 years). He has seen psychologists and refuses to take medication. His last psychologist chased him out of his rooms. No form of punishment helped. No form of treatment or therapy helps. After various meetings with schools (schools in the area would not allow him in as he built a reputation by this time), we were able to get him into an all boys boarding school thinking that in this environment he would do better. First semester at the new school and his Dad was called in again. I do not want him to visit at my house anymore but I receive pressure from his father to allow him to visit. I cannot stand the sight of him. He deliberately disrespects me and my home. He is now 2 years behind in school. His father has quite a grip on him now and he has very little space to cause again but his latest is for example defecating in my shower when he visits. This is a 16 year old boy! I am at wits end and I am considering leaving my fiancé.