I am interested in talking to moms who have lost a child. Anyone interested?

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Andrea - posted on 08/03/2009

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I lost my son at 2 days old. There's groups on here to join to talk with others going through the same thing. It might be beneficial for you. I still have his twin and he's 4 months now.

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Angela Denise - posted on 02/11/2014

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I am a mother of 2. My son is 22 now and I lost my beautiful daughter 22 months ago. She would've been 24 this past December on the 12th. April 10 at 3:17 am will be 2 years yet I still hurt like it was yesterday.

Gina - posted on 10/24/2011

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Hi Rebecca,My name is Gina we can talk if you'd like I to lost a child he was 17yrs old car accident

Jane - posted on 08/20/2009

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ooh my dear!. So sorry for the lost of the Love one. May God Bless you and give you peace always. Praise the lord.

Tanja - posted on 08/16/2009

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Hi Rebecca. I also had a MC at 4weeks in 2002. I fell pregnant and had a beatifull little girl in 2004. She was born with Trysome 18 - Edward syndrome. The doctors only gave her 3 months to live but she made it to 2 years. She got her angel wings in October 2006. We visit her grave every Sunday. I miss her very much. But God needed her more that we do. If you need to talk, my ears are allways open.

Marianne - posted on 08/16/2009

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Shannon, My sympathy at the loss of your precious son. It is a normal part of grieving to remember the children we have lost and to have that sadness increase during anniversary dates and what would be important times in the child's life. At age 5, he would be gettting ready to go to kindergarten. Sometimes getting through the sadness means being kind to ourselves and understanding and accepting our feelings.

Lachelle - posted on 08/15/2009

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I miscarried twins at 18 weeks on July 17th, 2008. We didn't know the sex but named them Christian and Christina in order to deal. It was extremely hard on our whole family but we are learning to cope with it everyday. I agree with the person before that said it cuts like a knife because that's exactly how it feels. I pray for each and every one of you who have had a loss that peace will come upon you. It's so hard for all of us.



I have three other sons, 8 years, 6 years and 6 months.

Belinda - posted on 08/15/2009

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I fell in love with my baby the moment I knew he/she was growing inside me. I didn't know it was possible to love someone I had never met so much! I miscarried at 13 weeks. For a while I tried to answer the "why" question, but finally accepted I won't know the answer this side of eternity. It was over 6 years ago and I still miss my baby. Fortunately I have since been blessed with 2 great sons.

Rebecca - posted on 08/14/2009

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Hi. I had 2 MC and then delivered a little girl 4-09. she passed away a month later. we miss her everyday.

Nancy - posted on 08/14/2009

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Hi Rebecca,



I am responding to your question about talking to someone who has lost a child. we recently lost our son Michael age 33 on January 22, 2008. He died of a brain aneurism and it has been a very difficult time for my family. The pain never goes away but i think it does get softer. We have found a wonderful group called the Compassionate Friends. It is for parents who have lost children no matter how recent or long ago. It is a well known group throughout the United States and internationally and i have included the website for you. No one can understand your pain but those who have gone through it themselves. Good Luck Rebecca. www.compassionatefriends.org/

Susan - posted on 08/14/2009

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I lost a son when he was 31 to pancreatic cancer. It never matters how old the child is, loss is still loss. I think about him everyday i miss him everyday. there is a hole in my heart and will always be until the day i see him again. One thing that has helped me is the book "On grief and grieving". it has become my bible. It has given voice to my feelings, it has given me comfort in my sorrow. I highly recommend this book. Talking to other mothers who have lost children helps also. No-one can know what you are going through unless they have gone though it themselves. God bless

Sue Morris

Joan - posted on 08/14/2009

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I lost my first born son when he was 19 years old. We were really close. He was 2500 miles away at school and coming home in 2 weeks to see his baby brother when he died. He also has a sister who is 2 1/2 years younger. I miss him sooooo much. I know he would have been great with his little brother. We still celebrate his birthdays. I talk to him alot and know he is up there watching over us. God bless everyone

Terrie - posted on 08/14/2009

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I also lost a son at 15 weeks over 13yrs ago. I too am blessed to have to older sons.
This is a lost like no other. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Libby - posted on 08/14/2009

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My daughter was stillborn in December I have found great support on a forum here called Motherhood after the death of a child.

Sarah - posted on 08/14/2009

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i lost my son at 29wks, you never get over the loss but i fel pregnant 7mths later i now have a 5 yr old daughter i gave birth to her at 32 wks I am now pregnant with my 3rd child i have reached 29wks so as you can imagine its a worrying time. All i can say is what people said to me that your baby was just to good for this world! I think about how my son woud off turned out he woud off been 7 this year,but then i might not off had my daughter there is no reason why these crue things happen but i assure you in time things will ease

Jo - posted on 08/13/2009

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i understand your pain,when you smell something that reminds you of your son means he is beside you walking beside you and letting you know he loves you

Misty - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I already had a son at the time. It took us a couple of years to get pregnant again. I was terrified something would go wrong again and I didn't think I could handle it. I had complications at the beginning of my last pregnancy and at the end. She ended up being 4 weeks early but she was healthy. Our son is now almost 6 and my daughter is almost 2 but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the baby we lost in between them and how close I came to losing my little girl.. My thoughts and prayers go out to any mom who has dealt with losing a child.

Sarah - posted on 08/13/2009

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I lost my daughter 5 years ago at 18 weeks. She had Edwards Syndrome. I now help to run the local Farnborough SANDS group. I now have 4 year olds but a day doesn't go by I don't think about her....

Tonya - posted on 08/13/2009

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No one who hasn't lost a child will never understand the place in your heart you will always have for your baby, they think it is easy because it wasn't enough time to bond to it, but this is not true..we talked to our children in our wombs, sang to them, tell them how wonderful their daddy's will be to them...I am also sorry for your loss, but so happy you have Lain!!!

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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We lost our son Tristan May 4, 2008, at 23 weeks gestation. I have what is called an incompetent cervix, which means at about 6 months, my cervix starts to ripen and dilate. At 6 months of pregnancy, this throws my body into labor. It was honestly the worst day of my life. We had to decide whether or not to take medical action, and decided it was best to let him go on to heaven. The odds of death are incredible, and if they live through all the surgeries, infections, etc., the chance for extreme physical and mental handicap are very likely. We felt it wouldn't be fair to put him through all of that. It turned out to be the best decision, as I also would have had to have a c-section. Instead, I got to hold him for the hour and a half he was on this earth.

However, our situation can be fixed. I gave birth to his brother Iain on May 27th of this year. I had my cervix stitched closed at 22 weeks, was on bed rest until week 36, and went another 3 weeks dilated at 4 cm.

I am sorry for your loss, as there is no other loss like it.

Tonya - posted on 08/13/2009

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Hi Rebecca, my name is Tonya, I lost a little girl back in 1993 to a condition called hydropsy...the doctors I had not caught it in time...she lives for 16 days after her birth..this was the hardest thing I have ever experienced in my life...I have had other children, but the pain of this has never left me..

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2009

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i had one MC at 9 weeks. I have never lost a full term baby. I now have one amazing little girl and couldn't imagine losing her now!

Dottie - posted on 08/12/2009

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I too lost a son Quinton Sadiq Giles in Apr-1994 to Cystic Fibrosis. At the time he was 5 yrs old, 4 months shy of turning 6. Today is his bornday he would be turning 21 if he was still amongst the living. Even after all these years I still feel a little sad on this day. I just want to say to those who have lost a child recently that I have you in my prayers, I know the pain you are feeling. I also want to reassure you that if you focus on the person that they were and think about the smiles that you shared with them as the years go by it doesn't hurt soooo much. Blessed Be.

Clarissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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My son Steven was 22 years young, in my eyes he was still my baby. He could never be away from home too long (mama's boy for real). He was in a head on collision and was gone instantly, no goodbyes or hugs anymore. It's only been 3 months now and I don't know how to deal either : (

Cynthia - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have lost two children, Rebeka Nicole died of complications of epilepsy at 9 mos on 12/14/96, she was 9 mos old. I also lost one of my twin boys, James Luis, who was born at 25 1/2 weeks. He lived 5 mos in the neonatal unit but died February 2, 1998 due to a collasped lung. He brother Kenny is now almost twelve and I have two other sons, Richie 24 1/2 and Tyler 9. I never go a day without thinking of them and even after all these years the loss can still cut like a knife. I would be happy to talk to anyone about their losses.

Cheralee - posted on 08/11/2009

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I had a MC back in March 2009.

Thank God that I had my daughter (who is now over two and a half)

Wanda - posted on 08/11/2009

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I lost my baby girl Elize in 2006 she was only 7 months old. I believe she was in the best hands of doctor possible. She had a rare heart deffect and 2 left lungs and all her organs was switched around. Docters don't know why it happend. The proffesor at the Red Cross Childrens Hospital said in all his life is she het second person whom had such a heart deffect. They didn't gave her a long life span. They said max 4 months but she made it till 7 months. I can't have anymore children and I still can't believe she's gone. I miss her

Lissa - posted on 08/11/2009

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I lost my twin boys at 20 weeks and it was the worst thing I have ever gone through, but today we have a healthy 3 year daughter
If you ever want to chat, I am here, since it helps to talk to others who know what you have gone through

Jana - posted on 08/10/2009

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May 4th 2005 I lost my first son at 20 weeks. and I just missed carried on August 7th at 11 weeks. I have been blessed with 2 other boys 2.5 and 1. But a loss is a loss no matter when you loose them. God bless you.

Jennifer - posted on 08/10/2009

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Reading all these posts reaffirms how precious and miraculous life really is, how fragile we all are. It's amazing any of us are here. I have had 4 miscarriages and I lost my first son due to a rare skeletal dysplasia. I had to terminate the pregnancy at 24 weeks - I never got to see him open his eyes and I still think of him every day. He'll always be my angel baby. I have since had three other beautiful children.

Shannon - posted on 08/10/2009

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I lost my son Christopher Bernard at age 6 months to SIDS. I think of him all the time. I wonder what he would look like now, at age 5. I think of all the things we would do together. It is so hard dealing with the death of your child. I hav been blessed with 3 little girls. He was my only son. I miss him so much.

Janee - posted on 08/10/2009

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My son passed away April 19, 2009. I was almost 7 months. I had been in denial for the first month, then I became angry, now I am an emotional wreak. I miss him so much.

Andria - posted on 08/10/2009

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I lost my son in July of 2007 to SIDS. He was 10 weeks old and would love to talk to you. My email that is not on facebook is carlsprincess86@hotmail.com and my name is Andria.

Jo - posted on 08/08/2009

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in 2002 i lost my beautiful daughter iritana who was 14,her death is glassed as a quad bike stat but she was on her push bike holding onto a quad bike on a open road they were doing 70kms,she let go of her handle bars and the rest is history written in the news.the pain is very raw it feels like some1 put their hand in my chest and pulled my heart out.thankfully i have 4 other kids that keep me going and 2 mokos that help as well.i wish that parents would realise that quad bikes and push bikes are a lot safer if they are wearing HELMETS WHICH OF COURSE MY GIRL WASNOT.as time goes by it does get easier but you neva ever get over it.keep you chin up and remember you are loved by all who surround you

Sharon - posted on 08/08/2009

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I'm so sorry for your loss. My first bubba was stillborn at 24 weeks. The most difficult time of my life - one of the hardest thing being that becuase he ws still born people think its not as hard because you never held him alive etc. Its just a horrible thing no person should have to endure. Chin up.

Katherine - posted on 08/08/2009

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i have had 2 mc and had lost a baby at 16 weeks gestion i had to have a abortion as she had lots of problems and would not have lived
that was on 11 of april 2008 and it still sometimes gets me down at times but i have 2 girls aged 3 and 6 that keep me going

Paula - posted on 08/08/2009

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I lost my first born son, 32 years ago to complications at birth, (due to a rare blood problem) and a lack of proper testing. I have 3 wonderful grown Kids, but the Pain never fully goes away, you just learn to deal with it, and you'll aways wonder...what if. I can't give magic words to make the pain go away, but having someone to vent to does help. If I can help feel free to call on me, am here and I'll listen.

Take care and be well

Kathy - posted on 08/08/2009

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I lost my daughter, Taryn to a drunk driver December 13, 2003, she had turned 18 years old shortly before that. I think of her everyday, she lives on in my heart. She was my baby. I know that they say (whoever "they" are!) time heals all wounds, I really don't think it does. Although in time I might get beyond her death, I will never get over it, and that's how I will live the rest of my life, with a hole in my heart.

Helenh - posted on 08/08/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

I am interested in talking to moms who have lost a child. Anyone interested?




i lost my first son in 1975 age only 6 hours and my other son in 2007 aged 23 it doesnt matter how old or young your children are the hurt is just as deep and the empty feeling never leaves you

Linda - posted on 08/07/2009

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I had 5 children. My middle child - My John - died on August 7, 1996., he was 18 yrs old. He was a passenger in a car driven by a friend - no drugs or alcohol were involved Thank God. He wasn't wearing a seat belt and was thrown from the car. They said he never felt a thing. I still pray that was so. I know it was his time to go, but I still miss him very much. The hardest part is going on without him., never getting to see him experience all the things in life he missed. I am a Christian and I know I will see him again. I just miss him. Its hard to believe it's been 13 years today that he died. Sometimes it seems only a couple of days ago I got the call., other times it feels so long since I heard his voice or his laugh...

Joy - posted on 08/07/2009

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On June 6th 2009 I lost our first baby girl Dharma Eileen to a rare bacterial infection. we have 2 handsome boys 7 and 8. we then went through 6 years of infertility and then we had our miracle little dharma was to come to us in this world. ? She was born and died within 50 minutes. It is still fresh and painful but I am willing to listen if you need it.

Debra - posted on 08/06/2009

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Franca- God doesn't put anything on us which is more than we can bear. And He tests those of us who are most dear to Him. # years is a long time to endure depression. Please get help with your emotions so that you may be able to lead a productive and successful life. I lost 2 due to eptopic pregnancies, and I lost my beautiful daughter after she reached her 3rd month birthday. Each and every loss is difficult. we are not promised tomorrow. What is most important now is you loving yourself and having faith and being thankful for what you have-your wonderful daughter. May God bless you and give you strength.

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I have lost 2 children (Ectopic Pregnancy) and lost my tubes during surgery and I could no longer have any children. I do however have my daughter who is my miracle baby. I am going thru depression for 3 years now and I still can't get over it.

Sabrina - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi, I lost my daughter Maleiyah Divine Prince 21 days old on July 14, 2003. She was my 4th child and my 2nd daughter. I miss her soooo much. I gave birth to my 5th child on Oct. 5, 2004 and I was so scared through out the entire pregnacy. We visit her grave often and we celebrate with balloons and sing her the happy birthday song every year on her birthday. The children keep her alive and they talk about her often. Talking about her helps me and our family. My husband played a major part in helping me not lose my mind and I thank him so much for his support. I'm so grateful that I'm a christian and I will see Maleiyah again and what a joyful day that will be. Everyone please be encouraged, because I know sometimes the pain seems to be unbearable. Lord I thank you for giving me the strength to endure. Thanks to everyone who has shared their story, because we're not alone. I'm here to listen thanks "circle of moms."

Stella - posted on 08/03/2009

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HI, I LOST MY DAUGHTER ON MARCH 07, 1998 TO SICKLE-CELL DISEASE AND GRAND MAL SEIZURES; HER NAME WAS JALEESA ANGELICA HODGES AND NEVER A DAY PASSES THAT I DON'T THINK OF SO IF U EVER NEED A PERSON WHOSE BEEN THERE I'M HERE..

Stacie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I lost a son RyLee James born 9-5-95 I was 35 wks and he was still born. I think about him every day and I thought it would get easier as time went on, but every year on his birth day I am so emotional and I can't control it on that day. If you need to chat let me know.

Stacie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I had a son who was stillborn on 9-5-95 I was 35wks and it was so hard. Went to Dr. appt. and they could not find a heart beat. So over to the hospital I went, they made me go into labor and have him natural. It took about 6 hrs and it was the worst feeling in the world knowing you are giving birth to a dead baby. Not a day goes by I don't think about what he would be like now at all most 14 years old. On his Birthday I get so emotional no matter what I am doing, working trying to stay busy. It is a feeling from inside. I do have two girls now that are my world and they are 10 and 5. We go vist him and my 5 yr old say "he is my baby brother." Even if he would be her older brother she thinks he is still a baby. If you ever need to talk I am here.

User - posted on 08/03/2009

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i lost my first child, girl, at 7 mnths to still birth, then MC at 14 wks, then a beautiful healthy boy, and a sweet girl, who i had spotting with and she was early also so i had an emergency c-section. it was a horrible thing to go thru, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger...i think about her everyday and still wish i had her in my arms to hold and kiss. i am however thankful she is happy and in the best place possible and i will see her again one day.

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