I AM JUST WONDERING IF I AM ALONE IN THIS. HAS ANYONE HAD TO STOP THEIR CAREER BECAUSE YOU GOT PREGNANT? I was just starting my masters in counseling psychology when i got pregnant, I was able to attend two semesters while i was pregnant. Now i would like to go back but i am not sure if i will be able to handle having twins, a new house, and all the work i would need to do for school? Is anyone in the same boat that i am?
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Maleeka - posted on 02/17/2009
I guess it depends on you. I had my son while getting my bachelors, got it and didn't stop. Was attending courses while pregnant and went back the next semester after he was born. He's nine now and I getting my Master's. I didn't stop. I was working full time and taking courses in the evenings. It took me ten years to get my undergrad, but I did it. I said it depends because I'm a single mom. But, that should give any mother, brother, sister, aunt or uncle the motivation to keep it going. I want my son to strive to be even better than me. I had help with my son, but it was hard. I'm not going to sugar coat it. Some nights I wouldn't get in until 11:30 after school and picking him up from the sitter's. You have to put your mind to it...do it for you first. Good Luck with whatever you choose. I hope its to continue
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Ajsha - posted on 02/17/2009
I know it can be hard but I went through the same thing twice. With my first son I was in the second semester of my freshman year. I kept at it and when I just got it down and transferred I got pregnant again and had to stop. I went back 1.5 years ago and have not stopped this time. I am graduating in June 2009. Make sure you have the support and help you need to get it done. There will be many ups and downs but to be able to show your children you can do it is what is most amazing.
Bree - posted on 02/17/2009
Cristina i can honestly say i know where you are coming from. I got my Assoicates degree when my son was little. I decided to take a year off and go back and get my bachlors (which im still doing). I work a full time job and also had a new baby last September. I was a trooper let me tell ya. Through all the horrible morning sickness i still was doing it while going to work every day. I have been doing school online though Fort Hays State University in Kansas (which is where i live). They have a great program ranked one of the highest in the country. It's been a tough road but i only have a year and a half left. If it is something you really want to do go for it! It is not impossible. Try to do some research about online programs. Good luck!
Faith - posted on 02/17/2009
I was in graduate school in order to become a paralegal when I became pregnant with my daughter. While I was pregnant with her and attending school during a summer, my Dad passed away. This was very devastating. I finished one of the two courses that I was in at the time, but took an incomplete in one because something had to give. I didn't go to school in the fall because she was due right around the time I would have been getting ready for final exams.
I have been a stay-at-home mom ever since, which was always our plan anyway, and have breast fed her the whole time.
The next summer, I did the work that was necessary in order to complete the course that I took an incomplete in (I had to write a 10 page research paper.) It was very difficult with a small child. We were also about to get ready to move, and I had absolutely no time to pack. It was very difficult.
This past August, we moved in with my in-laws in a different city so that my husband could work part-time and go back to school full-time in order to get into patent law (he's an attorney). I pretty much do all of our chores, laundry, shopping, etc. because he is working, in class, or doing homework from early in the morning until about 11 or 12 at night. We are also doing things around my in-laws' house in order to improve it. I work on Saturdays at a museum in order to bring in a little extra money. (My mother-in-law and husband watch my daughter on those days.)
I have been wondering about the same thing you have been: How can I finish my degree? I only have 2-4 classes left and would like to finish. I am also planning on continuing to stay at home with our daughter and on homeschooling. I want to have a degree in order to have options, such as working from home, helping my husband with his career, having something to fall back on, etc. It is extremely important to me that I finish.
The program I am in is a very specific program, and they do have a similar program here, but I don't know if it will work out or not. I am planning on contacting the new director of the program in order to discuss options. That is what I would encourage you to do as well. There may be evening classes that you could take and your husband or family could watch the children while you go to class. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I will have to go at a slower pace with finishing my degree in my circumstances. Sometimes, that is all you can do because there are only so many hours in the day.
By the way, I think it was great that you are home with your children. You can never get these years with them back, and it will make ALL the difference to them and their development. I pray that all goes well for you and your family!
Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2009
I got pregnant during my second year of law school. I took a heavy load of credit hours the semester before I delivered so that I would have less to take once he was born. I was fortunate enough to be able to take some of my classes in the evening while my husband was home, but I had to have a friend watch my sone a few hours a week during classes. I studied like crazy while he was taking naps. And newborns take naps a lot. My last semester was a little more trying, but I did it. He had to be in full time childcare while I was studing for the Bar Exam for 2 months also. It is difficult, but possible. I nursed him until he was 6 months old. And I pumped between classes while I was away from him.
My son is now 20 months and I am a lawyer. You can do it.
Elizabeth - posted on 02/17/2009
When I was in my third to last semester I found out I was pregnant. I ended up on bedrest and dropped out that semester... due to medical reasons. I took a summer term... then took off the next due to having my son. When he was 5 months old I started back to school and finished... I was pregnant again my last semester. It can be done... it is hard, but if you put your mind to it... you can do it.
Leisa - posted on 02/17/2009
I have two kids one at the age of 2 and the other at 2 months. I also had severe morning sickness and had to stop everything for both of my children but I started everything right back up. The children go to daycare. I am all most finish with only two more semesters to go and I could not bring my self to not to finish. I breast feed for only about a month and tried to pump when not around my second child but I just did not have time between classes. Being in school, with a job, and two kids is hard but my husband helps out a lot. If you do not have many classes to go, start back up because in the end your two twins will have a better future and you can provide more for them or you can wait like my sister has done. She has four children and her youngest one if getting ready to start school so after 12 years of being out of school she is going back.
Torri - posted on 02/17/2009
I'm a stay at home mom who actually gave up school totally to take care of my kids and home. But what about online courses you can do from home, going only part time taking weekend classes etc. A friend of mine has 2 boys and is doing a combination of all that.
Razija - posted on 02/17/2009
I went back to nursing school when my kids were 7 and 2 ½. I was full time student and working full time. During my first year my husband was gone during the week and only home on the weekends and I was new in the area and did not have a lot of friends and no family in the area. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done, no doubt about that, but at the same time it was well worth it. And it might be easier to go back now while they are still little, then when they become toddlers. That is when you want to be able to spend time with them and you will have more responsibility then than you do now. If you have a good support from family and friends that will just make it easier.
Melinda - posted on 02/17/2009
I have 2 children, my son is only 7 weeks old and I had to stop working due to bad morning sickness. I am breastfeeding so I know I can't return to any full time classes so I am taking a few courses correspondance at home so I am still progressing towards my goal just at a reduced pace. When he's older I can return to full time studies and I will still be further ahead than if I did nothing.
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