I am leaving to work abroad and i will leave my 3 year old son

Estrella - posted on 08/17/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Please give me some advice on how to cope i know for sure there would be endless crying nights.

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Estrella - posted on 08/17/2015

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Thank you Sarah and Dove i think you both right,i should've be happy and make a life day by day for my son.

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2015

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I am with you Dove, I couldn't do it. If this is a done deal Estrella, I still think you have to focus on his happiness and suck it up for his sake. You don't want him to hear how sad you are or see you all sad and crying.

Dove - posted on 08/17/2015

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There is nothing in the world that would cause me to leave any of my children for a whole year... Nothing.

That being said... this isn't really about you. It is about your child and HIS feelings on the situation. Yes, it will be hard on you for sure, but the only way to handle it is to just get through it. Focus on the work you will be doing and on the Skype conversations w/ your son. Try and stay happy and calm when you are talking to him and save the crying for later. You can distract yourself w/ movies and books in your quiet alone time... Make friends where you are going and try to get out to dinner or a movie or just hanging out w/ them regularly.

It's not the same thing, but when my kids are w/ their dad for a month and I'm feeling sentimental I scroll though all my pictures of them on Facebook.

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2015

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I really don't know what to say, why did you agree to move away for a whole year? Wasn't there any other option?

Estrella - posted on 08/17/2015

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I am still here with him,what i meant is that when im going abroad what am i going to do to cope,i will leave him with my aunt,yes granting that everyday we will be on skype though but in times like as a mother there are times that you want to cuddle wanting to hug your child is it helpful to browse all those memories?coz emotionally it is very agonizing is there anyway or anything i can do?

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2015

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I don't understand your last post. How much you miss your son IMO is not the issue; you want your son to remember you and to keep you active in his life on a daily basis. Who will be parenting him while you are gone?

Estrella - posted on 08/17/2015

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I have a 12 mos contract,will be working in the hospital.For now i have lots of videos and photos with my son,actually im gathering a lot of things and memories of him,is it helpful or will just put me on be more missing him?

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2015

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FaceTime and lots of letters. How long will you be apart? Are you in the service?

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