I am new to this site and hate to start with such a negative post, but all the moms will understand and I hope maybe one or so maybe can help. I have 4 young children ages 7 girl, 6 boy, 4 girl, and 2 boy, and with the hours my husband works I might as well be a single mom. The trouble is my four year old, Today I truly think I have hit bottom with her I don't know what to do or who to turn to. The more I read or hear about ODD I think she has it. If anybody can help I can give some more info. I just wanted to keep it short just what happen today would take me all night to put here. PLEASE I NEED HELP :-(
Michelle - posted on 09/13/2012
Sounds like you are doing a great job. Have you gotten drs involved yet. There are lots of things that can present as ODD. One that comes to mind is severely emotionally disturbed but your right something is definitely wrong. And at this point it is time to see a dr. They can determine if her problem is chemical as well and if meds are in order, not that you want to always medicate, but some things require meds. Just don't give up.
Dakota Cristin - posted on 09/13/2012
That is what I was thinking 4 was too young, this has been going on since she was 2 1/2 and is getting worse. The yelling, hitting, saying hurtful things to brothers and sister, telling them she will hurt them if they don't do or not do something, throwing things, temper tantrums that go on for hours. She sees that people are hurt and doesn't care. Last night she screamed and yelled at her 2 year old brother so bad, because she didn't get the dinner she wanted, he ran off scared hafe to death and she didn't care. Then the arguing she is always right and it is always someone else that is in the wrong or she didn't listen because someone else did something to cause her not to do what she was asked. I know it is rare but the longer it goes on and we have tried everything positive rewards trying to praise her when she does good thing and not so much when she does wrong taking rewards away, time out, the 1,2,3 magic, even that over priced total transformation program. Everything is a fight, it has gotten to the point I try to avoid going anywhere with her. We love all of our children and we show them and tell them and they know we love them. I just don't know what to do. I have even tried the methods we used for our 6 year old who has Aspergers, I am sure I spelled that wrong, and they worked for him, I know every child is different and I don't like to compare them to each other and I hope she doesn't have ODD, but the longer it goes on and nothing seems to work the more I just seem lost in what to do.
Michelle - posted on 09/12/2012
I would say that at 4 ODD is very rare but possible. I am sure she is probably pulling out all the stops to push the limits and test your boundaries. I have 3 kids of my own as well as teach preschool. Can you give me some illustrations? More importantly remember not to take anything she says or does personally and this is where great amounts of patience are required.
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