I am pregnant with my third child. I am 26. This will be my third girl. People ask me if me and my husband will try again for a boy and when I say yes they either shake their head or say something discouraging. All my life I wanted a big family and I hate being judged for wanting more than the typical two or three kids. Does anyone else deal with these things?

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Gena - posted on 03/30/2014

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It really is nobodys business how many children you have/want to have..But like the others said,people always ask or have something to say,even you have "just" one child.People always ask me if i am pregnant,or when is the second coming.As if it has something to do with them.I usualy just say,dont worry you will know when i am pregnant again,because i will tell you. The rudest question i got from somebody is when i married my husband.A lady asked me if i had to get married and showed a bump on the stomache indicating if i am pregnant.I said no.I wasnt pregnant so i didnt get married because of that.I married because i love my husband.
But i wonder how people must have talked about my grandparents,they had an age gap of 20yrs and had 9 children..and my grandfather had 17 brothers and sisters.They didnt have tv's back then lol.My mom has so many cousins,she doesnt even know all of them:)

Devonandthree - posted on 03/30/2014

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I have 2 boys and a girl, and the most encouraging friends. I have baby fever something fierce, and I can't see much of a reason not to have baby 4. Honestly it would be baby 5 for me, but the only thing stopping me from trying now is the big move in November. We are moving away from Hawaii and I don't want to be stuck here having a baby because the hospital here is horrible.

If you want another baby, and you know you can handle it and afford it, then tell them to mind their own business! Or just don't tell people til you are already pregnant! It's a lot harder to judge someone whose already pregnant, and it's not their life!

Guest - posted on 03/27/2014

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People judge no matter how many or how few you have. I only have one, and I will only ever have one.
I have had people tell me I'm being selfish for not giving him a sibling.
Others have told me he will be spoiled and selfish--one lady even told me I was putting others at risk by not giving him a sibling because he was very likely to grow up to be a psychopath!
Another mom told me, and I quote "You wouldn't understand true motherhood because you only have one kid."

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2014

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Thank you for your story. It makes me feel better. I know it's ultimately about making yourself and your family happy only. It's just irritating to hear things from people.

Kayla - posted on 03/27/2014

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People always have something to say, it's annoying. I have 3 little ones, and a 7 year old (not biologically mine) and my favorite line is "Wow you sure have your hands full." And I'm like, "Thanks for pointing that out, I had NO idea how busy I am!" haha

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/27/2014

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I am in the opposite position. I have 1 of each and people either ask when I am having another, or are disappointed when I say I am not. I had 2 very hard pregnancies, and if I had any more I may not have walked again. We never wanted more than 2 anyhow, but people will judge no matter what.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/27/2014

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Don't answer them then. Just say you are focusing on your current pregnancy and your 2 children. It really is no ones business.

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