Missie - posted on 04/29/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am a mother of six. My four oldest children are from a previous marriage and the two younger ones are from my current husband. Here is my problem, I spent a lot of time separated from my oldest children and in the past two years my husband and i have obtained custody of them plus had two children of our own. My husband mother acts like the oldest kids are dirt and really would rather see them go. Truth is my oldest two are 20 and just turned 18, the 20 year old does work and helps with bills but keeps an unacceptable schedule (according to my mother in law)- My husband feels that the oldest 4 should do more, ok more like almost everything around the house. I say its a combined effort. This of course causes arguments When i stand up for them because i feel he is being too harsh or over reacting or i ask him to give a little he says im trying to compensate for what i missed. But truth is i just feel he is being too harsh. I've tried to talk to him but he only hears what he wants. I've thought about just walking out on the whole thing but thats just not how i am. I guess im just looking for suggestions on how to approach the subject without causing a fight and how to show him he is being insensitive and overly harsh and that is what is upsetting me..