I am SO SICK of trying to get my daughter to wear her coat!

Ghostdarlin - posted on 02/05/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Here in Georgia, it's usually decent weather but it has been really cold the past month and a half. I cannot get my 13 year old to take the precaution of bundling up while waiting for us to pick her up. (she is a car rider). Many times on a cold windy afternoon, she'll be standing there while her friends where sweatshirts (NO jackets for them!) with her jacket either half hanging off her as she struggles with books, or on her with the front WIDE open exposing her front but not her arms and back. Her friends are always warm, but she keeps getting sick! She claims it is from other kids being sick, but I'm sick of the battle. It's not even that she wants to look cool-she is just not wanting to be bothered! ARGH!



She now has the sore throat, headache, and flu-type symptoms that are going around that everyone seems to have (here, NY, VA). Almost all of her classmates have it too. Even their school district administration has pandemic flu links up because kids are getting sick. HELP!?

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Brenda - posted on 12/02/2013

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I get so frustrated with my oldest (she is 12) when it's freezing out and she runs out of the house wearing a t-shirt! I always ask her to put a coat or jacket or even a sweatshirt on but she gets just as annoyed with me. I even bought her a jacket of her choice for over $200! And she still refuses to wear it! She has juvenile arthritis and the cold makes her hurt and sometimes causes a splotchy rash all over and she still doesn't take care of herself. And I have to suffer listening to her whine all night about her joints! I feel like I need to protect her because she won't do it for herself! I don't know what to do.

Ghostdarlin - posted on 02/06/2009

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Quoting Laura:

The immune system has everything to do with it. I live in Nova Scotia. I bet the winters here are a tad bit more severe then there. I wear flip flops all winter, and not just in the house. Running back and forth from the car, into stores, driving anywhere. I have had one small 2 day cold in the last several years. I would encourage you to read in detail the body of info that talks about "natural and logical consequences" Not only does it help young people of all ages to learn personal responsibility, but it eliminates a lot of arguing in the home. Good luck


Running back and forth are short jaunts, not like standing waiting in the cold for a half hour or more. And yes, the immune system does have a lot to do with it, anyone whose been in nursing like myself understands that, but other conditions are contributors as well.



 



And as far as your reference to the "body of info", do tell to what you are referring? I've raised one other daughter in addition to going to nursing school, so I've read pretty much all there is in regards to children and the human body. As far as arguing,we don't argue about it, she just won't listen when I ask her to wear her jacket. There's a bit of a difference there. Arguing with children is useless in most cases. You have to reason with them. I'm just wondering what is next once reasoning doesn't work and arguing just will make us both mad, so there's no point. There's got to be another way.

Ghostdarlin - posted on 02/06/2009

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Yep it's worth the fight because she always gets sick, which is why this is a fight I choose. Plus, whenever anyone is around me with a cold, I get it almost instantaneously and while they are better in 2-3 days, my immune system kicks back for 2 WEEKS. She knows this but still won't listen. She's a good kid, don't get me wrong, but is it really so hard to just zip up? She is popular so doesn't care about being "cool", it's just pure laziness it seems-and just inconsideration for me as well.

And I have to disagree with the cold weather theory. I've heard "experts" say the same thing, just like cold weather doesn't breed germs, etc. I've lived in NY and let me tell you, I've been healthier here in the warmer weather in comparison and so have my kids. I know they say it is due to the fact you're in enclosed environments with heat longer, but in theory, scientifically, heat kills bacteria. Viruses can breed under pretty much any conditions.

Other than this I am easy going, but with the rise in cost in our insurance premiums AND our insurance co-pay, getting sick is a major issue, at least in our house.

Rana - posted on 02/06/2009

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You have to condiser this :  Is it really worth the fight?  I live in Minnesota and it is has been freaking cold!!  My son refuses to do his laundry ( keep in mind he is 17 and keeps all his clothes in 1 big pile)  so he left for school 2 days this week in shorts carrying his jacket.  The temp here was about -10!!  I know it is something that is important to u but this kid does this regularly.  He very rarely gets sick.   Today is not so bad it's 26 above so all his classmates r probably wearing shorts as well.  If ya wanna chat u know where to find me.  i got lots of teenager stories!!  LOL!!

Liz - posted on 02/06/2009

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I know where your coming from. I have a 15 year old who will not wear boots at all.It doesn't matter how cold it is or how much snow we have ,she will not . She was around 8 when she topped wearing boots. [ they weren't cool ]. She said she felt like a geek so I said fine... She's been working parttime since she was 12 so I make her buy her own shoe's. She now realizes that her shoes don't last as long when they get wet all the time. Hears abit of advise [ take it or leave it ]. Pick your battles with your daughter, somethings are not worth the fight. I have a 23 year old daughter, so I learned from her. Also I remember when I was younger my mom saying the same thing to me. We just have to be there when they need us cause someday they will move out and not need us as much. Crystal lives a 3 day drive from me. I hope this helps you... Just say to yourself "is it worth the argument "? Before you and your daughter go head to head. Handle the small stuff cause after rasing 2 girls... you have bigger things to worry about in the future. I servived and you will too.Chat anytime.

Christine - posted on 02/06/2009

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Im in Scotland, it's always freezing here. Im surrounded by fields and sea.

Cathy - posted on 02/06/2009

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I should also say I have a 12 y/o that DOES wear a jacket, but only b/c the thinks it's "cool." She rarely wears a hat or gloves. It's the same with most of her classmates. I agree, it's a phase. I also see the high schooler across the street from me waiting for her morning bus dressed the SAME way.

And I live in NY, where it's blisteringly cold right now!

Christine - posted on 02/06/2009

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My 13 yr old is the same, always without a jacket. She doesnt get colds or anything though, I cant force her, so she goes out with a warning. I was the same as a child as well. they grow out of it.

Cathy - posted on 02/06/2009

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My 3 y/o fights with me about wearing a jacket too... and if I manage to convince her to wear one, she oftentimes does NOT want it zipped. I agree with the other Moms. The cold doesn't make you sick. Germs do. :)

Michelle - posted on 02/06/2009

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They make thick sweatshirts with fur or fleece linings that are super warm. I have them for all the members of my famliy. We use them all the time in the cold NY weather, but they are especially great when we are running around because the are much more comfortable than bulky jackets. Try one of those on her.

Laura - posted on 02/06/2009

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The immune system has everything to do with it. I live in Nova Scotia. I bet the winters here are a tad bit more severe then there. I wear flip flops all winter, and not just in the house. Running back and forth from the car, into stores, driving anywhere. I have had one small 2 day cold in the last several years. I would encourage you to read in detail the body of info that talks about "natural and logical consequences" Not only does it help young people of all ages to learn personal responsibility, but it eliminates a lot of arguing in the home. Good luck

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Scientifically speaking people cannot get sick without the presence of a virus or bacteria. Even if they are colder than others. If she is comfortable wearing a sweatshirt rather than a jacket and it keeps her warm then that is a good compromise. The main idea is to keep her immune system strong to do that then she should be dressed to keep out the worst of extreme temperatures but vitamin C supplements and a healthy diet usually insulate children from all but the worst diseases. Don't drive yourself nuts over her wearing a coat it's not worth the high blood pressure. :)

Ghostdarlin - posted on 02/05/2009

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that is *wear* not where-see!? I am all flustered I can't even spell right! LOL

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