I am so upset this girl who I thought was my friend hugged everyone in my church group goodbye last night except me. She just looked at me and walked past me out he door. Why would she do this?? I feel like she doesn't like me and wanted to hug everyone except me.

Sarahpeterson4ever - posted on 06/10/2016 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I am so upset this girl who I thought was my friend hugged everyone in my church group goodbye last night except me. She just looked at me and walked past me out he door. Why would she do this?? I feel like she doesn't like me and wanted to hug everyone except me.

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Sarah - posted on 06/11/2016

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Sarah what I will try to tell you one more time is we can see all of your posts, including the ones from Crystal H (which are clearly yours) so my response is cumulative. When you prod into people personal outings, wonder aloud why you were blocked on Facebook, have the nerve to even consider asking the church to change dates of a planned trip; you are crossing some boundaries. Yes, this post is about you not getting hugged; I'd guess she did not hug you as a result of you past behavior. Your pastor even told you to "stop asking about peoples outings". Eavesdropping, stalking Facebook and wondering to others why you did not get a wedding invite, or how you will ever manage to not see a particular friend after she moves, gets tedious. I am trying to help you look at the big picture. If you only want to focus on the missed hug; fine she was clearly trying to tell you she does not like you. Why? Other posts point to that reason.

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Sarah - posted on 06/11/2016

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Sarah in all kindness, are you a parent? This is a parenting website. You sound really young. If you actually want advice and to do some self-reflection; the great. But if all you are looking for is to be told "poor you, the girls at church were mean" then you are not in the right place. You post and post yet you don't answer, do you read the responses?

Jodi - posted on 06/11/2016

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"This post isn't about including me places, its about hugging everyone except me"

It's still about including you, though. Like all your posts. Honestly, find a different group of friends. You can't FORCE people to be your friend.

Dove - posted on 06/11/2016

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I am really curious as to why you keep making almost identical posts and asking us all why these people are doing these things... We have told you repeatedly that the only way to know why someone has done something is to ask THEM about it... and we have given you several reasons (based on your multiple posts about this same topic) as to why all of these people are repeatedly shunning away from you... and you, so far, address none of it. All you do is ignore it, wait a day or two, and then make another almost identical post.... Do you not think we are reading your posts (even though we respond to them all)? Why do you do that? See... there is an example of me not understanding another person's behavior and questioning them out on it....

Dove - posted on 06/11/2016

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Like I said in your last post that you conveniently never came back to (I'm really surprised you're back on this one... oh wait, it IS Saturday... lol)... these people clearly do NOT like you. You are whiny and clingy and they are sick of it.

Stay away from them.... and stay off the internet.

Sarahpeterson4ever - posted on 06/11/2016

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This post isn't about including me places, its about hugging everyone except me

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/10/2016

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Child, go find something else to do, and for fucks sake GROW UP. People are under no obligation to like you or include you in a damn thing, and (if you ARE an adult) I would tell you straight to your face that your constant bitching, whining, and crying about not being included in every fucking aspect of everyone else's life is not only annoying, but rude and immature.

You have been told this, very nicely may I add, by almost everyone who reads your whining.

Grow up. Get over it. MOVE ON¡!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2016

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In every scenario you describe both as Sarah P and Crystal H. (see link) you are the victim.
http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-circ...

You have been lied to, blocked, not invited, not hugged and generally feel excluded. Your pastor telling to to stop asking about people's social gatherings, is basically the same as telling you to back off. I never said you had to stop being friends with these people but unless they treat everyone the way you feel you have been treated? Then the common denominator is you. There is something you may not even be aware you are doing that is driving a wedge between and your church friends. To the point that the pastor got involved.

Sarahpeterson4ever - posted on 06/10/2016

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The pastor didnt tell me to back off on talking to them or being friends with them, he said to stop asking about peoples social gatherings they had. And how am I the common denominator?

Michelle - posted on 06/10/2016

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I'm starting to think you are a bored kid trolling a Mother's site.
Go away because all of your posts are about the same thing.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2016

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Sarah! Of your 6 posts, 4 start with the phrase "I am so upset.." all 6 are about how you were shut out, lied to, avoided by or going to miss friends from church. There are nearly identical posts from "Crystal" as well. You seem obsessed with your church community. What is really going on? Are you considerably younger than the other members? Do you call them endlessly, stick your nose into their business, ask about them behind their backs? If even your pastor has had to tell you to back off, then you need to back off. You don't respond to any of the posted replies. If you want to fix this, and make and maintain friendships then you gotta do some self examination. No one is that rude unless they are really upset. Is this the girl you wanted the pastor to move the church trip so she could go? If people you thought were your friends are blocking you on social media, lying to get out of giving your rides, not inviting to weddings and not saying polite good-byes; what does that tell you? You are the common denominator and as much as I'd like to cushion this for you; you sound like a stalker. Take a step back, have a heart to heart with your pastor, seek his advice and advice from Scripture. Maybe you need a different social outlet?

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