Erica - posted on 07/30/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
im having behaviour problems with my ds7 1/2 he is very rude, and violent in my home, he lives with his biological father and visits me 3 weekeneds every month and i get 7 weeks of summer(because we live an hour away in traveling). He is screaming and yelling everytimee i put him in time out, then talks back in time out , saying how he hates me, refuses to call me mom, just stuff i know his very own father, bcos thats how his father talks to me very controlled tone as if he has control of the situation. i saved most of my message on my cell of his own BD using that "tone."
He brings up constant stories from the past which he wouldnt even have a clue to what happen of him being nearly 3 yr old when his own father and i split. he is throwing things off tables (again his father does this- very violent in our past relationship) he kicks walls, closets, pushes me while i walk away from him, (he was supposed to be in time out). i put him back in the corner every time and he turns around crosses his arms saying "he doesnt have to listen to me cuz im not his mom. " his dads gf is 'from what he thinks.' i need help because i feel like he has learned his fathers ways of abuse and thinks its 'normal,' behaviour to act in a violent way. everything DS is doing is what his father does. he was such a sweet boy, but by having him more so often now in summer (end of summer) he claims he cant wait til he goes back home?? dont understand why he would want to go back to an environment where there is verbal / physical abuse?? im trying to help and reach out seek advice. from what i understand therapy is 2 weeks away from his first appt.
talking to his BD won't help (he is the one that showed our son this bahaviour is appropriate.) When i did mention it to his father he says 'he doesnt like going house to house.' he constant hits his 4yr old sister and when i get onto him and "take things," away he always says UGHHHH I WANNA GO back to my BDs!"
just feeling lost like why does he have this temper, violence in him (rage too!) whats weird to me is that its been mentioned by his BD he doesnt act that way with him, so i heard if he acts this way at myhouse where i have to worry about my other childrens safety then i dont belong seeing my own ds???