Kimberly - posted on 04/27/2017 ( 9 moms have responded )
I've been in my relationship with my DH for 6 yrs. We had a baby in July 2016. MIL has always been rude to me & we never clicked. I tried to be nice to her & we did things together as a family & MIL/FIL would complain about everything we did, eat, & etc. I won't go anywhere with them again because they make the trip miserable. When I found out I was preg she and her husband told my DH that they were going to stay with us for about 2 months when the baby comes. I was so mad because no one asked them to. I wrote them a nice letter saying why I was more comfortable with them not coming for that long & as a new mom I wanted to do things my way & that is where all the drama started. They accused me of trapping my DH because I was preg & told me in a letter that since they can't come stay with us that they didn't want anything to do with us. I didn't say they couldn't come, I told them I can't have them piled up in my house smoking cigarettes all day but in nice words. Its MY house not his. She even said F my baby. So for months I was mad & didn't want them to be near me. Then I gave birth & I forgave them. So for about 4 months they were seeing the baby about once every 2 weeks & I was trying so hard to not let them get to me until I just had it. She would call my 4 month old a brat because my baby cried when she held her. Then they would tell me what to do & what not to do & I was telling my DH to ask them to stop & he never did. So one day I was on Facebook & MIL/SIL started calling me a fat psycho because I didn't let them see the baby as often as they wanted. That I was hoarding the baby. I was so mad. I just had a baby... & a C-section so I couldn't exercise...Plus I can't stand being around these people. I honestly didn't need anyones help taking care of my baby so I never asked for help. & if I needed help, I would ask my own mom & not MIL who is rude & so negative about everything. I blew up on the post & called my MIL "WHITE TRASH". That is what I think of her & now she knows it. I haven't seen her in 4 months. My baby will not be around someone who disrespects me & calls me names. I want to know did I do the right thing? I feel like I did because I'm tired of people walking on me all the time & this is my baby & my rules. If they can't be nice, then they can't see the baby. My DH wants to be able to see his mom again & bring the baby. They think I did something wrong. I wasn't the one who started calling people names on social media...A 56 yr old woman was. I'm classy when it comes to respecting people. I don't see her in my future nor my baby's future. She is a negative person & talks so bad about everyone & I don't want my baby to think that is OK because its not. Please give me your input. Thanks for Reading about my situation.