Gina - posted on 11/08/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hello everyone. I'm sorry for this lengthy post but it has to be in order to tell the whole story. Thank you in advance if you suffer any typos (which I'm certain will be there because I'm typing on my cell phone) and thank you in advance for any thoughts or advice.
It was 8am in the morning on November 3, 2012, my phone was ringing off the hook. I woke up, my husband did too wondering why someone was calling my cell phone so many times that early on a Saturday morning. My daughter came walking in the room as I answered the phone to my brother telling me my little sister had just died. I broke down crying like I have never cried before in my life. My husband quickly swooped up our angel and shuffled her off to her bedroom but it was too late, she saw me completely lose it.
We had to tell her why. Of course we would have anyway. I left 2 days later to go to Florida to help plan. I was gone for 8 days. She seemed sad for a little while. She had only met Aunt Sheri one time when she came up here to Kansas for a week to help me with Cara when I had back surgery.
Here it is a year later and for the past 2-3 months Cara keeps talking about Aunt Sheri and how she's sad because she died or she misses her. She says she dreams about her and Cara gets upset and asks me "Why do I have to keep dreaming about Aunt Sheri Mommy? It makes me sad." I ask her what she dreams and she says that Aunt Sheri is watching over her in her bed. I tell her that should make her happy that Aunt Sheri is protecting her but she just keeps saying she's sad and she misses her.
One time she even said she wanted to die so she could see her! Another thing: she has a picture of Sheri and she drew on the back of it and she told me "When I die you have to make SURE I have this with me Mommy so I can give it to Aunt Sheri. You HAVE to promise me NOW!"
What do I do? This is not right is it? My husband thinks it just a 4 year old processing death but I think it's more. Saying she wants to die? This is a person she met 1 time when she was maybe 2 years old.
Any advice or thoughts would be very much appreciated. Please, please no bashing or unkind words. I don't need them right now. I just need help. Thank you all so much! ♥ :)