Tami - posted on 10/15/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have been divorced from the children's father since Feb. 2011. We have joint custody of my 14 year old son and 16 year old daughter. I was awarded the home but was given 2 years to either refinance or sell. I couldn't pull this off. I remarried April 2013 and the children's dad wouldn't give me more time to on the home. The 2nd marriage did not work out and we divorced. I also lost my business.. The house was foreclosed on. Since then I have moved, moved and moved. The children's dad offered to help if I moved closer to him (he lives with his parents and is 48 years old) This did not work out because my teenage daughter wasn't happy being away from the home town where she had a boyfriend and friends. Also, her father took our child support debit card and wouldn't give it back to me. I had a nervous breakdown and went into the hospital. When I came out my family said to get my kids and myself out of the town where their father lives. I did this. I rented a house and moved back. My 14 year old son is not happy and he wants to go live with his father. He has threatened me several times. At this time, I can't support either one of them and my 16 year old daughter does what she pleases anyway.
My brother who lives an hour away from me has said to just send both of them to live with their father and his parents and I can stay with him until I get back on my feet. I've agree that although the kids father is mean and manipulate (he has convinced my son that I can't be a good mother) that I simply have no choice. Before long we will all be homeless. My brother has also told the kids father that I'm not willing to sign paperwork as far as custody is concerned. Their father is approximately 9,000 behind in his child support. I'm so tired of moving and I want what is best for my kids even if it means giving them up. Am I making the right decision and what consequences might I face from my ex?
I know a lot of drama but I would appreciate any advice.