I can't believe it.... Abortion procedure.... worry over my angel baby's body...

Kaylihia - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I didn't know at all. That second trimester abortions what happened. I was looking up abortion information in general because sadly this time around I'm a lot worst than with my first pregnancy... I read that they have to crush the skull in order to remove it and cause less damage... No one told me this... I keep thinking what happened to my baby like was it that bad that no one cared to let me know they just mutilated what I found to be valuable... I hate doctors....

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Louise - posted on 04/14/2012

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I think abortion dates are to far along now. In England you can have an aborotion right up to 28 weeks yet babies are born and survive from 24 weeks. Its all wrong. Not enough information is given out to mothers on just how this procedure is done. I am not pro life or pro abortion but I think if you are going to do it then you should be informed how it is done.

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Tina - posted on 04/18/2012

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pregnancy is scary for anyone. No one would blame you for that decision.

I was both excited and terrified when I found out I was pregnant with both my kids. I didn't know how it was going to go how I was going to cope. Especially since I'm so small. I ended up having c section with both. The recovery can be annoying but babies were both born safely.

You just have to keep up with your appointments and do what is best for you and your baby and no matter what anyone says do what feels right for you.

Kaylihia - posted on 04/14/2012

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Yeah I know if I do lose this one or any in the future I will just do it the delivery way... It's better than repeating the mistake...



yeah now I guess that's my issue like many women in position have funeral for their children they loose after they have vaginal deliveries because they never did what I did to her. I feel like I didn't think of her enough...



Thank you very much...

Audra - posted on 04/14/2012

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I know you'd rather not have a detailed image in your head, and especially after-the-fact, but I feel it's important to be well-aware of just how tragic these procedures can be. You're no longer blind to the facts of such a procedure. You can heal from this. You can put better information out there for others contemplating a second trimester abortion. You can support other women who are experiencing similar emotions after having had an abortion. In death, we leave our bodies behind. If you've ever been to a viewing or a funeral, you may have felt there was something missing...the body was there for all to view, but it was more of a 'shell' that once housed the life, and the spirit. Anything that happened to your baby's body, happened to your baby's BODY. The life, the spirit...is safe. I am glad you have sought out help. I wish you healing and peace.

Kaylihia - posted on 04/14/2012

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good thing is there is another option if I don't make it to term That it won't live. My dr. last time suggested a d&e since I wouldn't want to have an induced vaginal delivery. If it came to that I guess I don't want to be traumatized for life..I guess I just got to believe it won't happen again. Right now I do have a hopefully healthy pregnancy... That's all that matters no need to worry in advance... The bright side I am getting help for it...



My pregnancy couldn't survive it would contaminate me if it continued... I wouldn't have a baby if I had just continued I just would have died or had serious complications. I still just wanted my baby to be treated with a little more decency. She was my daughter and I wanted her every bit. I get that they wanted the best way to end without completely hurting me psychologically. But now I feel like I can't trust drs anymore.. They just disclose what sounds better... I hate it...



I had a second trimester abortion procedure.It was either that or a vaginal delivery... I was scared of that... I was scared of her inside of me that way. I couldn't face her... I just read how it's done. I guess it would have been bad knowing or not really...

Audra - posted on 04/14/2012

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...did you have an abortion? I couldn't understand your post. You had a second trimester abortion?

Tina - posted on 04/14/2012

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That's good glad you're getting help. I've looked up info on abortions in the past too. It's really sad. I couldn't get the images out of my head either. I know it's hard but think of the positve. You've got a beautiful baby now that you are giving a chance at life. Try not to think negative you need to be positive for this baby. Try not to stress over what has happened. You can't be blamed for making such a tough decision like that. It's hard enough for anyone to make. You're starting to get your life on track now. Atleast you know now what is involved with abortion now so you can make a decision based on those facts. And you clearly have a heart because there is plenty of people who would look at those images and not care. Goodluck with everything by the way. Don't forget if you ever need to talk or find yourself struggling at all. You can write on here or message me. It's important to be able to vent and talk to someone.

Kaylihia - posted on 04/13/2012

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I don't really have anything problem with myself. It's just I didn't know that what they did... Like it I guess haunts me now and hard to get the image out of my head... I wish almost I didn't know. But I wish I would have had the choice to know that's all...



I have sought out help...

Tina - posted on 04/13/2012

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I know it's sad that people aren't better informed. You can't change the past. You can't beat yourself up over something you can't change. I realise I commented on your other post. I hope you're seeking help for yourself. Adoption will be a good thing. Provided you are seeking help. You have so much potential with determination things can be different for you. Have you looked into foster care. You're only 14 maybe someone can help you with a home a help you get off the drugs and schooling. I'm not trying to sound mean. I just genuinly worried. I hate the thought of a young person that has their whole life ahead them having trouble like you are. I have a young daughter and I would never give up on her. You shouldn't even have to be worrying about this stuff. This is a very adult situation. Someone your age should have a home to go to and a school. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. If you ever need to talk or just vent you can message me.

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