I can't get my 10 year-old stepdaughter to wash her hands and brush her teeth

Sherry - posted on 01/21/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I go crazy trying to get Kari to develop good hygiene for herself. Her Dad lets her do whatever she wants. He sets no boundaries, and I'm left being the bad guy when she does things wrong. He lets her eat whatever she wants. I try to feed her healthy food, but she just says no. This is the reason she behaves this way. He never set any limits with her, and cooks her special meals. She won't eat what we're having for dinner. She eats chicken nuggets, pizza, French fries, donuts, candy, any kind of junk. I'm surprised I'm not on nerve pills on the weekends we have visitation with her. Her Mom spoils her rotten just like her Dad. Now, I'm the evil stepmom trying to keep her healthy. She is putting on the pounds, and already wearing the same size as me. What can I do? I've tried talking with my husband, and nothing ever changes. He says there is nothing we can do because she's only here every other weekend. p.s. Her Mom is overweight too. I don't want her to get obese. HELP!


User - posted on 01/21/2014




There is nothing u can do here. Some people don't change till their support system is taken away. For her, its her biological mum and dad who support and she feels they r her backbone.
Let time play its role.
I donno if u have any children of your own. Plz concentrate on them for now and see what time has in store for her, more than her, her biological parents.
Don't wanna sound negative my dear, but some things r best to b left alll alone. Best for u and for other party in concern. If u increase your worries and tries, u will be taken for granted FOR SURE.


View replies by

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2014




Unfortunately it's not your place to do anything. Her Dad is the parent when she is with her and if that's the way HER parents want to raise her then that's their choice.
My advice to you is to run (since you've seen (non) parenting skills) or don't have children with him.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms