User - posted on 01/01/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband and Ihave been together for 3 years now. When we first met I had my daughter (who was 8 months at the time) and his daughter (who was 6). She has always been the type of kid who pushes until she can no longer push... but with DH and his family there is no limit. She can do whatever she wants with no problems. Daddy and his parents where still doing everything for her. The kid either couldn't or wouldn't get her own drinks or pour a bowl of cereal.
Since day one I have been trying to break her of the "I can do whatever I want" and "I can get whatever I want" attitudes. She hates me and never wanted to stay at our house becuase I had rules (which was no a problem at dh and grandparents house). I expected my 2 yo to follow these rules, surely a 7 yo could. This has caused many problems in our house. Mainly beacuse I told hubbythat he cant be giving her baths and she was not allowed to sleep in our bed. I mean for gods sake shes to old for it. To top it all off any type of punishment I tried giving was too much. I spank my daughter, while I would never lay a hand on his daughter I beileve she needs to have punishments for misbehaving. She throws fits and daddy gives in... I have given up on that and no longer want her over.
Within the last year she has turned into this child that I no longer want around. Not only does she hit my daughter every chance she gets, but she also takes her toys away. She tries her hardest to make sure my daughter is no where near "her" daddy and she makes fun of her. Another thing is she is always glaring at me. Any chance she gets and daddy is not looking she gives me the death glare! And she is always trying to put herself between hubby and myself. I am being totally literal here.... she will shove herself between her father and me on the couch.
I guess I need help with this because hubby and his parents, in a way, encourage the behavior. They laugh when I express how she is not only acting like a huge baby, but also hurting my child.