i cant get along with my mom

Dawn Marie - posted on 08/09/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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well this story is long but to begin with im 50 and living with my mom who is 77 and shes a bitch uncaring cold hearted bitch i no this sounds mean but i have been through so much since 2007 i wont get into all that which probably would make u understand better , but for now a short version i was a manager at a retail store for 7 yrs making good money i had my own apartment and was living very well my parents at the time lived 8 hrs away i talked to my mom sometimes and it was civil but we were never close , my dad died in 2009 so my mom moved close to me and my brothers so my mom wanted us to get a home together im not part owner its all hers well i tried an it only worked for 2 yrs well i still had my job so i moved back out an got my own place again well the last of 2013 i lost my job i lost everything i had to sell all my belongings to have money and i moved back in with my mom who said ill take care of u till u get back on your feet well that never happened i lost my health insurance and i have never been the healthiest so i was on allot of meds coasting up to 500 a month well our relationship just got worse i was running out of money and i couldn't find work for 8 months i finally got a cashing job and i dont make about 500 a month if im lucky so i cant pay rent i do have obama insur which helps but i still have other bills to pay i cant move out cause i have no money i want so much to get out of here i feel trapped she has made my family hate me because i don't pay rent or help with bills she talks bad about me to everyone its so hurtful iv tried talking to her but it just ends up in a big fight she doesn't no what im going through she doesnt care shes so mean to me , if she sells the house and goes into an assisted living home im screwed im doing everything i can to find a better job..she makes everyone thinks shes and angel which drives me crazy an she says shes a christian but a christian dosent act like her shes always picking on me and i cant do anything right so i started doing it back to her because im so hurt ...there's more to this story i could write a novel.....plz i need advice

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Jodi - posted on 08/10/2015

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As per my advice to all parents with adult children, and all adult children who don't like the rules or conditions in their parents' home, if you don't like it, move out. You are an adult, and have been one for some time, but you need to be standing on your own two feet. It is rude and disrespectful to expect your mother to still be supporting you at your age AND in her stage of life, especially as you have openly admitted you don't pay your mother rent OR help with the bills. Chances are, your mother is annoyed at you for putting her in this position. And honestly, I can't blame her. She talks bad about you to everyone about you not paying the rent or helping with the bills? It's the truth!!! Have you considered the fact that SHE might be doing it tough financially too?

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Sarah - posted on 08/11/2015

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Shawnn I am following you around this evening....
Dawn, what frustrates me the most about your whole post is part of your first sentence:
"im 50 and living with my mom who is 77 and shes a bitch uncaring cold hearted bitch"
If you mom is a cold hearted bitch, then move. The apple did not fall far from the tree in your home did it? I can't even put my thoughts into words.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/11/2015

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I just keep coming back to this one...YOU have been through so much? How about your mother, who spent the first 18 (or more) years of your life raising you, giving up things for you, not having her own life...for you, and once she finally thinks you're a responsible adult able to take care of yourself, you only last for a couple decades before once again expecting her to give up things for you, not have her own life, sacrifice for you...and you actually have the audacity to bitch about it to other MOTHERS???

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/11/2015

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I can't think of a damned thing to say except this: GROW UP. You're 5 years older than I am, for God's sake, and I'm not living at my mother's house, even though I haven't held a 'real' job in 4 months. I had planned for that, and am sticking with my plan which includes GETTING A NEW JOB. Stop blaming your mother for your own condition of irresponsibility, get off your butt, and do something to improve your lot. I am. Since my original field is a bit slow in playing out in a new job, I'm taking courses in a different field, to get a Bachelor's, and other opportunities. I'll actually be done with the degree part in another 4 months, and have already been offered positions paying upwards of $20/hour to start.

Good grief. I'm so sick of people bitching about their lot in life...YOU are the only one who can change that. You don't like living at your mother's at the age of 50 years old? Well, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Move out, and take care of yourself.

Sarah - posted on 08/09/2015

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I am sorry but without punctuation your post is a bit tough to follow. Move out. If you qualify for government assistance (which you should), apply for help until you get on your feet.

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