April - posted on 10/31/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am an 18 year old mom and I have my own son Michael and then I have an adopted daughter Fawn who is 11. By the way I broke up with Michael's dad 2 months after he was born.
Ok so when I first adopted Fawn the orphanage cares told me that she had a bad background story. Her mom and dad had both committed suicide and Fawn had a violent history of hitting and bitting people. When I did adopt her for the first couple months she was a right little terror and would swear, hit, kick etc, and she was especially violent towards my boyfriend. But that was 2 years ago in 2012 and now she is all settled down. :)
Now I've always known that Fawn is the sorta person who gets on better with the opposite sex and all her teachers tell me that. Last year I got a little concerned about it but her teacher Ms. Liner said that it was normal for kids to make friends of whatever gender and not to be worried. Her current friends are Ben Morgan, Toa Tusega, Kyle Edwards, Max Carter and Jaymis Grubjec. Fawn takes the bus to school but she says that every morning they welcome her into school. She always really enjoys soccer and these kids and her bond over it. I know for a fact that her very best friends are Max (10) and Jaymis (3months older then her).
But yesterday she came home from school and said she had been playing with the GIRLS! I was real stunned cuz she has always called girls Puffy Princesses. So then she asked if she could go other to one of there houses cuz they lived down the street. I was so surprised I wasn't thinking and said she could.
Then about half an hour later I got a call from Jaymis's mom saying she didn't know where he was and was really worried. So I said we should both go down to the park and check.
When we got to the park we made a really unpleasant discovery. Fawn had on her sports bra and short ripped jeans and Jaymis was in soccer shorts and didn't have a shirt on. They were sitting by the lake and Jaymis was kissing her tits over the bra. I got super mad and pulled her away. Then we all went home.
The next morning Fawn yelled at me for 'ruining her moment'. She confessed she had had sex with Jaymis and she 'was proud of it'. She sweared at me and said that she and Jaymis were goanna run away.
She's never ever called me mom before but the words she used were just not what 11 year olds should say. I do not no where she learned them.
But what worries me is that she confessed to having sex and she's already had her period. I don't know what I should do. I mean can she get an abortion at 11? How much will it cost? Will it hurt her? Why did she do this?
Please help me I'm only 18 and really confused.