I currently co-sleep with my 7 month old baby. She should be crawling soon and I'm worry about her falling off the bed. Does anyone have any suggestions on making the family bed safe? I can't put the mattress on the floor due to our dog sleeping in our room as well. Thanks in advance!

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CHRISTINA - posted on 03/01/2009

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I don't wanna judge anyone really or start an argument, im just curious. but why should parents sleep with their kidz? what are the cons/pros? why not just put them in a crib? i though it would make it more difficult for the child to adjust to stay in their room all night.. my niece is four years old and every night around 2 or 3 am she will go to her parents bedroom, also my sisters concern is her sexual life with her husband it brings issues when the kids are in the room. A MY WRONG? since i had my kids i moved them to their room at 3 months since everyone told me that they should adjust to sleep by themselves in their room (ps: when they were born they would sleep in my bedroom but in a basinet).

Leah - posted on 10/29/2012

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That's the crappiest advise ever. I've Coslept four children. Its sad that children diemin their sleep at night. did you know that sids is actually fewer in cosleeping familys ?! mum can is close by nd wakes to the smallest sound ! id give all my nights rest to sleep next to my kids! They are the best sleepers ever now and I never had issues getting them to their own bed. The only thing that's worth it's weight inthat post was that they aren't little forever.i love my night snuggles !

Paige - posted on 03/01/2009

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I use an at arms reach co-sleeper. It is amazing. It fits up flush to the side of your bed you can reach your baby with out even sitting up. its kinda like a miny pack n play. My baby has been in it since birth, i will keep her in it as long as possible! Im not sure how much they are because i got it as a shower gift. Check it our online and see if its something you would be interested in!!! Good luck. and have fun with your soon to be crawling baby, mine should be starting anyday now too.

Brenda - posted on 03/01/2009

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Both of my children, now 10 (B) & 3 1/2 (G) slept with my husband and me. We bought a bed rail for our son. My daughter ALWAYS ended up in the middle of the bed, so we didn't worry. I'm also a light sleeper, so if they moved, I knew it. The one thing I would warn anyone about is that it's a really hard habit to break. Our son was 6 before he excepted that he had his own bed!! We swore we wouldn't do it again when #2 came...yeah, right.

Allison - posted on 03/01/2009

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Unfortunately, Karen isn't quite informed on co-sleeping practices. Co-sleeping is safe as long as proper precautions are taken. Parents do not roll over on their children unless drugs or alcohol are in place or if they are sleeping in an unsound environment (like a couch). Co-sleeping is not a bad habit - many families choose to have a family bed and share sleep well into early childhood with their children, and other cultures also share sleep though childhood and adulthood. I can't imagine anything more special then sleeping and waking with my children - and we all get better sleep that way, too!

Anyhow...is there a way you could train the dog not to get on the bed? We have dogs and they learned they were not allowed on the mattresses when we were in bed (or baby was in bed). When it comes to falling out of bed, you could put your mattress against the wall, but you need to be very careful that baby cannot get stuck between the wall and the mattress. There are some special co-sleeping pillows/bumpers: http://www.snugtuckpillow.com/ and the Humanity Family Bed pillow.

I tried several bed rails, but found my daughter would just crawl over them, then have further to fall. Also, babies can get pinned between them and you, which is a danger, of course. Some people forgo rails and just put pillows on the floor, so if baby falls they don't get hurt. We always started teaching our kids to get off the bed feet first starting when they were learning to crawl - and this helped some.

I'm sure you'll find something that works well for you. Good luck!

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Mary - posted on 06/03/2014

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to all those people here who say sleeping with a baby is safe assuming you take all precautions LIKE I DID- well it isn't and i do hope that none of you mommies go through the trauma and devastation of waking and finding a dead baby in your bed.believe me you will never forgive yourselves.

Kim - posted on 03/01/2009

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my son has always slept in a bed when he started crawling i use to put pillows n blankets on the floor just in case he did fall out good luck

Christine - posted on 03/01/2009

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We have our mattress against the wall, and I sleep on the outside.  I never leave him unattended in bed, because he will crawl right off...he has no sense that he might fall off and get hurt.  When we sleep, I hear and feel his every movement and since he isn't on the outside, it works for us.  I never planned on co-sleeping.  It just happened and I am so happy that it has.  It has made night nursings so much easier, and we all sleep well.  We are going to slowly start transitioning him to his own bed, but for now...I am going to cherish those sweet moments with my baby.  Best of luck Lana.  I hope you and your family can work it out.

Brenda - posted on 03/01/2009

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Quoting CHRISTINA:

I don't wanna judge anyone really or start an argument, im just curious. but why should parents sleep with their kidz? what are the cons/pros? why not just put them in a crib? i though it would make it more difficult for the child to adjust to stay in their room all night.. my niece is four years old and every night around 2 or 3 am she will go to her parents bedroom, also my sisters concern is her sexual life with her husband it brings issues when the kids are in the room. A MY WRONG? since i had my kids i moved them to their room at 3 months since everyone told me that they should adjust to sleep by themselves in their room (ps: when they were born they would sleep in my bedroom but in a basinet).



It fosters a tighter bond between mother and child and is in line with the ideals of Attachment Parenting.  It increases skin to skin contact and fosters a more trusting relationship.  Co sleeping also allows for easier and more natural breastfeeding.  It also often produces more independent and confident children later in life.  In essence it is simply another parenting technique that has been brought to light recently by Dr. Sears, but it is mainly the way mothers worldwide sleep with their children, and how all mothers used to sleep with their children.  It is a choice when looking at parenting methods like anything else, and has only been considered "abnormal" in recent years among industrialized nations like America and Europe.  Basically, a mom going for more instinctual parenting or natural parenting would choose to do this. I did it because I had a high needs child who had colic for a long time (longer than the normal three months).  Not every baby likes co sleeping, some babies prefer their space.  It just depends on the child.  If you want to see more about it I recommend askdrsears.com or attachmentparenting.org. 

Britni - posted on 03/01/2009

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I don't think Lana was asking anybody whether or not she should co-sleep, she was simply asking what she could do to make it safer. I personally prefer to have my babies in the crib b/c I sleep better and so do they. There is no harm in co-sleeping, I am sure that if Lana was a heavy sleeper and thought there was ANY chance that anything would happen to her baby, she would have her child in a crib.

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You should never sleep with your baby in your bed, more babies die from Mum or Dad rolling on them than cot death. Dont get into the habit of this, as when the time comes for the transition for the child to be in its own bed it becomes more difficult as the child is not useto sleeping alone. Plus you need your time and time for your partner.You need a good nights sleep to put all your energy into caring for your child through the day. Dont forget they are not babies for long and as they start to crawl and walk you need more energy to keep up !! believe me.....



I'm not trying to be one of those people who starts crap on the boards but telling her not to co-sleep has nothing to do with her question.  She already does the family bed thing and is trying to do it the safest way possible.   I'm sure she is aware of all the good advice you gave her and she probably gave it a lot of thought before doing the family bed.  If lack of rest was her problem then she probably would have already stopped sleeping with her baby. 



Personally, I'm all for the family bed as well.  We tried it and weren't getting enough rest and so what worked for US was to put the baby in a bassinet and then crib in our room.  He stayed in our room until he was almost 7 months old.  If the family bed is working for you and your hubby then I say kudos to you and don't listen to what anyone else says.  You are obviously a safe and conscientious mother or you wouldn't have asked your question.  A friend of mine did the rail attachment on her bed and it did the trick.  It kinda looks like the rails you put on a toddler bed.  Good luck and happy snuggling!

Michele - posted on 03/01/2009

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Humanity Family Bed Co Sleeping Pad



Universal Bedside Co-Sleeper W/Short Liner





i found both of these on Amazon.com. Fantastic options for safe co-sleeping. Most likely getting the pad for my baby and me. But the 'sidecar' type option is great for the transition from the family bed to theirs.

Brenda - posted on 03/01/2009

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Yes, it is perfectly safe to co sleep the proper way.  Babies are not passive and will turn and roll away if someone attempts to roll over on them.  It is a common misconception that there is increased SIDS in children that co sleep.  Most the statistics include people who sleep on inappropriate surfaces (couches, water beds, etc).



You can bump the bed against the wall (so mattress is flush) and stuff with rolled towels or blankets to close any gapping that baby may slip into.  The same goes for the head of the bed, so that you can be sure the baby doesn't slip up for the head.  You can also use a bed rail and use the same safety procedures there as well.  Another option would be to remove the drop rail from the crib and set it next to the bed with the crib mattress at the same height as your mattress (though this would be less of a family bed).



There is wonderful information for co sleeping safety on the attachmentparenting.org website.  Good luck, and know that before too long it won't be as much of a concern because you can slide her into the middle of the bed when she's a big bigger.  My son started sleeping in between my husband and I at about 2 years.

Tamara - posted on 03/01/2009

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Quoting Karen:

You should never sleep with your baby in your bed, more babies die from Mum or Dad rolling on them than cot death. Dont get into the habit of this, as when the time comes for the transition for the child to be in its own bed it becomes more difficult as the child is not useto sleeping alone. Plus you need your time and time for your partner.You need a good nights sleep to put all your energy into caring for your child through the day. Dont forget they are not babies for long and as they start to crawl and walk you need more energy to keep up !! believe me.....





As long as neither mother nor father are under the influence of alcohol or drugs (this includes prescription mediction or OTC sleeping pills), there is little danger of rolling over onto a baby while cosleeping.  Human kind has coslept with its young since the beginning.  Cosleeping is a common sleeping arrangement worldwide with no ill effects.






 






Also, it's been shown that cosleeping parents and children rouse less frequently, reduce the chances of SIDS, and promotes the breastfeeding relationship.






 






Dr. James McKenna's Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory has shown the benefits of cosleeping again and again while showing how to do it safelyhttp://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/faq.html



Karen - posted on 03/01/2009

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You should never sleep with your baby in your bed, more babies die from Mum or Dad rolling on them than cot death. Dont get into the habit of this, as when the time comes for the transition for the child to be in its own bed it becomes more difficult as the child is not useto sleeping alone. Plus you need your time and time for your partner.You need a good nights sleep to put all your energy into caring for your child through the day. Dont forget they are not babies for long and as they start to crawl and walk you need more energy to keep up !! believe me.....

Lina - posted on 03/01/2009

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You can purchase a bed rail which secures to the bed and your baby sleeps between you and the rail. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...
I use this with my 10 month old. You will need to be aware when your baby starts sitting/pulling up and standing as it will no longer be safe to leave her unattended in the bed. I put my son in the crib at the start of the night and move him into bed with me when I can no longer be bothered getting up to nurse. Here's a link to a bed rail so you know what I'm talking about. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...

Tamara - posted on 03/01/2009

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What I did was make sure the mattress and the box spring were flush with the wall. I than put my baby next to the wall and than I slept beside her with hubby on the outside. You can also sidecar a crib with one side removed if that is something you want to try.

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