Molly - posted on 05/17/2016 ( 30 moms have responded )
i joined this site last week. i have posted a bunch of concerns and worries. i may sound stupid when it comes to having a baby, let alone two a one time maybe i am. i am not a stupid woman. i am noticing there are some bizarre patterns in some of the users here. i already was told one mom was lying, but i wonder how much advice i am getting from liars.
maybe i should have started with i am an actuary, a mathematician, i work with numbers and statistics all day. that may be why i am so nervous about twins. i know the odds of carrying them to term, them being healthy and all that stuff. and i spent a lot of time looking over posts and responses today and sort of got sucked into what appears to be a pattern.
here is what i need to know: whom do i trust? i see names over and over and that they have lots and lots of posts. my math mind tells me if they were bullshitting me they'd not stay around but get bored and move on. i see jodi, dove, evelyn, michelle, sarah (a few of those), shawnn, llittle miss etc, and raye, that have been around long enough that their story would get mixed up and they would be busted and leave. so i guess i wonder should i stay and trust the answers i get or should i leave? i had two miscarriages and i openly shared that here thinking the other people would understand and know how i felt and how scared i am now. not laugh at me and make false witness to me. when i spoke to my husband, derek, today, he told me to quit this site. but i need a place to share with mothers who can give me real advice. i don't want some false story about your dead sister and your handful of babies. see, this is where the math part comes in. do you know the odds of two women with dead sisters, both adopting dead sisters kids, and having kids of their own and then both sharing data on the same site? i did the math and it is like 90 thousand to 1. add in all the kids are girls, most are disabled and the actuarial data is off the chart. so, whom do i trust? just cause i am new, and not a mom yet doesn't mean i am not smart enough to smell bullshit. i have two tiny people in my womb, i am scared beyond words. please be respectful enough to not answer my questions if you don't know what you are talking about. maybe i need more book referrals instead of asking moms on a site full of liars.