Kate - posted on 04/08/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
Iam a single mother of 2 girls, ages 3 and a half and 3 and a half months. Both of my pregnancies were high risk, I was rediculously sick throughout, I spent the majority of both pregnancies hospitalized and both girls were born prematurly. When my first was born, dr's begged me not to try and breast feed because I needed to regain my own health, it also took a while for any milk to drop. She was put on Neo-sure(I call it formula-zilla. Its amazing stuff.) My 2nd girl came early very unexpectedly and spent 3 and a half weeks on a vent in the NICU. I hand expressed as much as I could, so she did recieve some breast milk the first few weeks, but being so stressed by not having her home, not being able to stay at the hospital constantly, and stress put on me by her fathers job loss took a toll on my milk supply. I certainly did try to breast feed the first few days when she was home but it was stressing me out tremendously, so I stopped and she was also placed on Neo-sure. I just don't understand why some mothers think if you don't breast feed your a horrible mother. And yes, those types of mom's exsist, I know quite a few of them. All I heard/still hear is "Did you not try.." or "She will end up sick without it.." or there are the looks. The moms that just look at you like you are a disappointment to God because you didn't do what should come naturally. News flash, I talk it over with God every day ladies, and yes it is a God-given gift to breastfeed but guess what? So are the precious creatures I incubated and suffered for months for to bring into the world!! Ladies if you breastfeed/were able to breastfeed, kudos to you. I love it when I hear someone talking about how well it is going for them! But please don't dis-count those of us who are unable to. We still get to bond. I often feed my newborn skin tp skin and even though she isn't on the breast, she still has that eye contact and bonding experience with me that every mother loves to have. The fact of the matter is, whatever a moms reasons if she doesn't decide to breastfeed are her reasons, and should be supported reguardless. After all,a breastfeeding mother is just as incredible as a non breastfeeding mother. They both want the same for there children... A happy, healthy exsistence. God bless.