I dislike my son

Grace - posted on 12/27/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 21 year old drives me crazy. I hate saying I dislike him but I really do at times. I don't know what to do I try really hard but he's just so lazy and such a pig it drives me insane. Are these feelings wrong?

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Dove - posted on 12/27/2015

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Not liking that behavior is 100% normal. Most people do not like to live w/ pigs... That's why you need to write up a contract of what is expected while he is under your roof and let him know that if he can't keep up his end of the contract he will need to find alternate living arrangements.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/28/2015

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I would just set his stuff out on the lawn the next time he is out, and change the locks. Done and done. If he isn't adhering to the house rules, he is out. He is 21. He is a legal adult. He should be in college, or have a full time job.

Yes, it is wrong to not like your own son, but like Dove said, you can dislike his actions, or lack there of. He is taking advantage. Stop enabling him. You cannot control what he does, but you certainly have control of your own actions.

Grace - posted on 12/28/2015

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Thank you ladies I will see how it goes. What I'm gonna pray for is my patience and sanity. I'm definitely beyond my limit of being rational. Thanks again

Amy - posted on 12/27/2015

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Pray for him! Give the situation and your heart to GOD and then just pray. The change you will see will amaze you!

Dove - posted on 12/27/2015

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Talk to a lawyer about the eviction process in your area... and serve him w/ an eviction notice asap. Then when the time is up (why you need to talk to the lawyer)... the police can come and remove him from your home. You do him no favors by allowing this to continue.

Grace - posted on 12/27/2015

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Thank you for the advice but that has been done all but too many times. I have another son who is 19 and he gives me no issues at all. I've bailed Travis out of jail had an uncountable amount of conversations where I set boundaries and make rules and it's useless. I cry and cry and I feel guilty and horrible just knowing I dislike him. I've asked him to move out and his response is no I'm not going anywhere. He makes me feel like I failed as a parent. My younger son constantly fights and argues with him because he can't stand how Travis disrespects me. I feel my situation is a lost one.

Nancy - posted on 12/27/2015

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Set boundaries with him, sit down and talk about your and his expectations, and concern. He's your son and sorting out things should be easy.

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