Hazel - posted on 09/22/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
Okay ladies I really don’t know what else to do.
My stepson is 15, he and I don’t always see eye to eye.. (well we never do) but I been in his life since he was 7 years old. I have taught him how to clean, iron, cook minimal stuff etc etc.. His BIO mom has always been a very negative influence. She has told him that what I am showing him is wrong. That as a mom that it is “my job to clean” and since he is still in school “he should not clean, iron, wash etc etc” My husband and I have talked to him and told him that we are teaching him how to be a man. He leaves every other week with his Bio Mom.
My stepson doesn’t have many chores.. He is responsible of his room to be clean, and the bathroom by his room. Take out the trash. Very simple stuff that a 6 year old can do. But even that stuff its like pulling teeth. I have added chores when he refuses to do his chores. I have yelled, grounded, taken his electronics everything and it does not work. I have left the bathroom trash can over flow until he takes it out. But its usually after I yell for him to take it out.
I even went to the point of cleaning his bathroom and left it spotless and told him all he need to do is maintain it. Every day that bathroom is a mess.
That bathroom is the main bathroom, so when we have company over that is the bathroom everyone uses it. When he leaves I say im going to leave it dirty until he comes back but like I said its the main bathroom so I clean it when we get company because they do not need to come to my house and use a dirty bathroom.
I am at the end of my rope with him and his chores. Please help