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I need advice on a big problem I'm having. I don't want to have a birthday party when my son turns 1 but my husband does and I don't know what to do..
I don't get along with most of my inlaws, but my mother in law is the worst. The woman has never liked me, and has publicly bashed me many times. She doesn't think I'm good enough for her son, and doesn't think anyone is good enough. Anyway I overlooked her behavior in the past, and moved on but now that I have a baby I can't take this woman's crap anymore. She underminds me as a parent, gets pissed when I hold my child around her, gives me dirty looks, makes rude comments about me, and is down right nasty to me when my husband (her son) isn't in the room.
On top of all of this she gets pissed off if I mention my family being around my son. She always has to show off with gifts and thinks that whoever gives more loves more. My family doesn't have a lot of money and can't give my son the types of gifts that she does. If I have a party for my sons first birthday I know my mother in law will hog my son, get pissy when any of my family holds him, and show off that she can give him bigger and better gifts than my family.
Now for the worst part of all of this...My son has food alergies, and even though my husbands family knows this they still try to feed him things he's not alowed to have. My son alergy to milk protein is so bad that if he has any form of milk it causes him to bleed from his rectum, and still they try to feed him milk products. My husband and I always stop them when they try to feed him things he cant have but we have never had our son around all of my inlaws at the same time.
My family doesn't try to feed him anything he can't have so I don't have to worry about my side.
If we throw our son a party I don't know if we will be able to keep them from shoving food down his throat that he can't have. Also I worry that I will snap if I catch anyone giving him anything that is going to make him sick. I really don't want to make things worse than they already are between myself and my inlaws, and I really don't want to blow up at my son's first birthday party.
Sooo what should we do? Does anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this? Would it be wrong of me not to throw my son a party for his first birthday?? HELP!!!