Myah - posted on 07/27/2015 ( 26 moms have responded )
I don't where to start with this without it being a long post so I apologize in advance.
My husband had accidentally hit a stray dog about 5 years ago. The vet said the dog was severely dehydrated and had a really bad case of mange. This was when we were just dating.
At first when I would come over I loved his dog. He was super friendly. He has another dog too and he randomly gets attacked by the Pittbull that he hit. So fast forward a couple of years, when I became pregnant and we were about to move in together. I started to notice things more clearly, maybe a mom instinct in me kicking in. Him attacking the other dog randomly really started to bother me. I thought that he should get neutered and it took my husband awhile to agree to it. A few weeks before he was neutered I was over visiting with my dogs to see how they would get along and my dachshund walked by the couch, husbands Pitt bull was laying next to us and just attacked my husband and it was pretty bad.
Finally my husband got him neutered. He rarely got walked and I did try to walk him but he pulls me really bad and for the last 3 years we pretty much just kept him separated from our daughter. Things started getting too much. I'm pregnant and 10 weeks away from having our second child and his dog being so food aggressive with the other dogs is getting to me. Once a month he attacks one of our other dogs. For awhile he was scared of my daughter, would slouch down when she walked by. One time she walked by his food bowl and he ran over to it like he was guarding it. Another time when I was trying to get him comfortable with her, she put a blanket over his head and he growled. After that I started separating him from her again.
The final thing that just made me done was he attacked my husbands 15 year old dog over an almost empty food bowl for the 100th time. I keep thinking if one of my kids are in the middle of these dog fights they could get seriously hurt.
We fought really bad over it and I said I wanted him to get rid of his dog. He gave him to one of his friends but after a day she said we had to take him back because he got into a fight with her other dog and it was pretty bad. His friend said it wasn't our dogs fault but I wasn't there and I'm used to him fighting with our dogs. We took him back and my husband put him into the pound. I felt bad because my husband was so upset and he was crying and promised me up and down that he would take his dog to the vet. I've been telling him for months that he's going blind and finally the pound telling him that made him listen and he also still has a little bit of mange. He swore he would call a behavioral therapist and also that he would walk him every night, plus feed him separately. So he got him back out and within 2 weeks he never called a trainor, never called a vet. He was walking him every night but skipped a couple and started to complain about it but still did it for the most part. There were a couple times he didn't put the gate up to feed him separately. And that was really annoying. His reasoning was he was training him but I don't understand how.
His dog attacked my dog and my husband said we didn't see who started it but what I did see was he was the one who went for an extra couple lunges. I'm so fed up right now. Sad and just really mad that for two weeks not even a trainer was called.
My husband said he was busy and that he will call one.
I don't know what to do. I feel bad for putting our dog in the pound but I have these thoughts that one day he's going to hurt my child or the new baby when she starts crawling around. I feel like I've given so many chances.
If I'm wrong for feeling like this please tell me and any advice I would love to hear. I feel like I'm constantly being bullied into keeping him and then another dog gets attacked and all the promises get forgotten. Like, when my husband first got attacked by his dog he just conveniently forgets. He says he was breaking up a fight and his dog accidentally bit him but that was another time. He somehow forgets that when my daughter put a blanket over his head that his dog growled and this was 6 months ago.
We have 2 other rescues and their great dogs. In no way do I hate dogs, but in this situation I'm so torn and I don't know what to do. The first time my husband found him the vet said he was around 11 months so that would make him about 5/6 right now. The pound though said he was 9 so I'm really not even sure how old he is.
After he first came back from the pound for the first time ever he started to seem interested in my daughter. Interacting. But some days he seems more scared of her. The other day a mop fell 5 feet away from him and he was scared for 30 minutes and had his tail tucked between his butt.
Am I over reacting? Being heartless like my husband is saying? I want to do the right thing. Is this even fixable?