I Don't know who the Father Is.

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I seriouIsly messed up. I was going steady with this guy, but we had really tough times in our relationship. I had sex with him on September 1st, and the day after I went out of state to take my daughter to see her dad. Well on September 5th or 6th, I had troubles getting home so he let me stay with him until I fixed the issue, and that morning early morning like 2 am.. we has sex. (So stupid of me) well 2 days before that I was bleeding, but not like a period flow.. (I have 2-3 day periods as it is, but they are still normal flow) this was like spotting, and more brown and some pink.) and it didn't last 3 days straight. I spotted some one day, it stopped, then I spotted some day after I had sex with my daughters dad, and it stopped. well I come back home on september 7th, and tell my boyfriend I cheated on him, because I have never cheated on anyone, and I felt so bad. We broke up, and about 2 weeks later I had literally 1-2 minute sex with this other guy I was buzzed, and grieving... it was so akward for both me and that other guy that we stopped. I don't think he cummed at all, but I don't know.. and as for my daughters dad on the the 5th, he swears he didn't cum, and I believe him, but I know pre cum is a bitch. So ultimatly my boyfriend has been the only one cumming in me... and after that buzzed sex with that irrelevent guy, me and my boyfriend got back together like 3 days later, and started having sex almost everyday and he was cumming in me and everything. So what I need an opinion on is... who do you think the childs father is and why? I went to a pregnancy center on November 19th, and the ultrasound tech there who did my Ultrasound said I concieved on the 15th of september by my measurements of 11 weeks and 2 days, and she said intersourse could have been anywhere from the 10th-15th but I didn't have sex from the 10th to the 15th of september, and she is doing the measurements based of of ulrasound but also when I told her I was spotting. That was my only ultrasound so far. Could the conception date she gave me be wrong? Cuz I didn't have sex from the 10th-15th. I mean, I don't get it.

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Sarah - posted on 12/12/2015

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Actually the crown rump measurement of a new fetus can date the conception within 48 hours, when done by a skilled technician. You have had intercourse with men so close together, that it is impossible to tell who the father is until birth. You can have sex Monday, and not conceive until Friday (rare but sperm can live up to five days). So if a reliable US says you conceived on the 11th that would be the partner form early September.
Can we please stop with the pre-cum, cum and cumming.... those are not even words.

Jodi - posted on 12/12/2015

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Also make sure you get tested for STIs. So many partners in such a short period of time is not a great idea for reasons other than that you don't truly know who the father is.

Raye - posted on 12/14/2015

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Marie,
You have had a child previously, so that would lead one to believe that you know where babies come from. So why would you be having any unprotected sex, let alone with multiple partners, if you weren't trying to get pregnant? I know, that's past now, and the fact is you are pregnant. The only way to know for sure who the father is would be to do a DNA test after the baby is born.

Since you will now be a mother of two, I hope you will start thinking about what is best for your children, and not engage in such risky behavior. You have two little lives depending on you, and you need to make more responsible choices.

Michelle - posted on 12/12/2015

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For starters, no one can tell you what date you conceived. They will count a pregnancy 40 weeks from the beginning of your last period. She shouldn't have told you a conception date at all. There are far to many variables for anyone to know.
We would have no idea who the baby's Father is so you'll have to wait until it is born and get a DNA test done.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/24/2016

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Good grief. We DO NOT have a crystal ball. You have sex with multiple partners within a short time period, and ANY of them can be the father. Only a blood test will tell for certain.

I certainly hope you are prepared for this!

Keith - posted on 04/23/2016

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Ok I sorta have the same prob had sex with a girl August 2, 2015 and she had the baby April 20 2016 would I be the father or her ex that she dated a week or 2 before me that she was having sex with and I'm not on the birth certificate and didn't sign any papers and do I have to take a dna test or can I deny it or would I go to jail or something

Sarah - posted on 12/13/2015

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Even a very accurate estimate, is just an estimate. The further along your are the less accurate the measurements become as well.

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015

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and she said I concieved the 15th which could be anywhere from the 10th to 15th

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015

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And I don't have time for people being smart, I know if I had only had sex with one guy I would know for sure, but I didn't, so that's why I'm asking for opinions on how to go about this, because I know what I did was wrong, and it's sitting in my gut... the guilt, and fear.

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015

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I will most certaintly get tested. I believe everybody makes mistakes.and this was for sure. I want to get tested not just for myself, but to aware the men if I do have something. which I'm praying not.

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015

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lol I don't know how to say it though, I mean ejaculation I guess but that's so foward. And it was done by an ultrasound tech who worked in a free pregnancy center, so she had a degree, but I don't know how skilled she was. she could have been fresh, or had years of experience. I don't know. But I had sex with someone one the 1st of september, and someone on the 6th, so that's what I'm mainly concerned about. They are too close together to tell to me. but it is so much more like how I didn't have a period, I just spotted the day before the 6th.

Dove - posted on 12/12/2015

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The only way to know for SURE who the father of your child is would be... 1) only having sex w/ one guy... or 2) a paternity test once the child is born.

Ultrasounds and conception dates are just estimates. NO ONE can tell you for sure when you conceived or who the father is (except by my two options above).... period.

Marie - posted on 12/12/2015

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That's what I figured. I don't know why they told me a conception date either, because it's all hearsay, and way too close together to tell. It's a guess. My boyfriend is taking a DNA test when the baby is born though.

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