I don't like the way my 13 year oid girl talk back at me,what will I do

Tina - posted on 05/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 13 year old girl talk back at me, what will I do pls help


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Angela - posted on 05/10/2013




You're not giving enough information in your opening post.

"Back talk" has forever been a bone of contention with parents and their offspring of all ages. To be honest, I personally believe that any child (indeed any individual) has the right to speak up for themselves and defend themselves - but this must be voiced politely and carefully.

You need to discuss with her why you do not like what she does. The best way to do this would NOT be just after she's made some smart retort but at another time when you're both calm and OK with one another. Do some preparation before your talk and be ready to furnish your objections with examples. Also have ready some answers for questions you feel she's likely to ask.

Back-talk from small children is often just rude, angry and protesting. Back-talk from teenagers is more likely to be relevant and logical - but when delivered in a smug fashion, a sneering tone of voice or simply with a raised voice (shouting) the speaker loses his/her ground.

You could also ask her to put her objections to whatever you have to say in writing - instead of verbally and in the heat of the moment. This gives a teenager a lot of scope for worthy, sensible and measured response. They may not get "compliance" from the adults calling the shots, but they'd definitely get some respect.

Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 05/10/2013




If she's 13 and doing this then I have 2 questions.

Is this just recently or has it been going for her whole life but is just getting worse because of her age?

The reason I ask is because my answers will be VERY different.

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