I Don't Trust My Ex's New Girlfriend

Deven - posted on 03/28/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )




I know I have no legal right to stop her seeing my child when she is with her father but last week his new girlfriend threatend me and I wondering if this changes things, I do not trust her around my child but he says I should trust him, I don't want to cause any bother as far as my daughter is concerned as me and her father always remained good friends but his new girlfriend is trying to change this and feels that intimidating/threatening me will work, help please


Jodi - posted on 03/28/2014




Threatened you how? You shouldn't have to have anything to do with her, or need to deal with her at all. Threatening you won't change anything though. She didn't threaten your child. He's right, you need to trust him.


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Sarah - posted on 06/19/2014




If this is coming from jealousy than everyone is right, you need to step off a little BUT if you still have a sincere concern for your child while putting all of your own personal feelings aside then you're right to have come here. If your ex and you are close enough for you to express your concern and he will actually listen then keep talking to him. Maybe y'all need some time to get to know each other.

I have gone through the same sort of thing. My ex and I were...amicable. His girlfriend took awhile to understand how we could get along but grew to be ok with it until they got married. She flipped her B**** switch and at one point wouldn't even tell me where she had my kids so I could pick them up after their weekend was over. We just don't deal with each other anymore. The kids are not typically alone with her and if they are I know about it. I also got my oldest a cell phone so that if she or her brother ever feel unsafe they can call me no matter what.

Amber - posted on 05/26/2014




Best thing to do is talk to him and tell him, if he doesn't listen talk to your lawyer to see what you can do..

Elanda Moira Atencio - posted on 05/16/2014




Hi there.
First, How long were you and the father together before you two split up and what was the time span between your ex meeting this new girl?
Second, How old is the new girlfriend? How actively involved is she in your daughters life?
Third, what was the threat about?
Four, any remaining feelings between you and your ex?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/03/2014




I don't understand why people insist on introducing boyfriends/girlfriends to kids so early in the relationship. Quite frankly, it can be an emotional upheaval for the children, especially if they become attached and the relationship is short lived.

That being said, I sort of agree with the other ladies, but if it is a new relationship, there is no reason for him to be introducing the children so soon. Just my opinion. And yeah I would feel the same as you. Not wanting someone that is threatening me, to be around my children. You just never know. But if there is no court order in place, not much you can do I suppose. I would suggest keeping on good terms with your ex though. Don't let this women drive a wedge between you both, because the children will end up suffering.

Ev - posted on 03/28/2014




Yes, I have to agree with this. You need to trust him with your daughter. He should know how to keep the child safe.

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