Monique - posted on 07/15/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
Hi, my name is Monique and I am new to the group. My now 5year old daughter, lost her biological father to murder, right in front of her eyes. She was 14months at the time and she does not remember a thing of that horrible day. I thank God for sparing her life and I thank him that she does not recall that day. I allow my daughter to go spend time with her aunt and her big cousins. That is her family, why deny her and them of a relationship. I have been with my boyfriend off and on for almost 16 yrs. I have been with him this time for 4years straight and we have children together as well. MY daughter knows my boyfriend as, "daddy." I allowed her to call him that on her own. I introduced him to her by his first name and the relationship they grew into one day she just called him daddy and neither one of us knew what to do, so we just let her be. My boyfriend hates me for allowing my daughter to be around her family. I feel he is wrong. I have to allow my daughter to know the truth because I don't want her to grow up hating me. I don't feel she will love her" daddy" any less. I feel she will love and respect us more when she learns the truth and can look back and say thank you for telling her the truth. Am I wrong for allowing my daughter to be around her family? She doesn't know yet about her biological father, she just knows that her aunt and her cousins are her aunts and her cousins, family. As II write this my daughter is with her family now and well, my so called boyfriend is gone and texted telling me how much he hates me and how he is gonna sleep with every female he sees. Thank you for listening. Please respond. I feel like crap.