User - posted on 05/31/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
My partner and I have a beautiful 1 year old daughter and have been together off and on for 2 years. We have had a lot of ups and downs, but recently turned a corner where he finally sat down and said how happy he was with me and our family and wanted a future together. Long story short, we were not very serious when we conceived our daughter and he had some sowing of his oats to do still.
He is in the military and distance is a factor right now, but right before he left for this assignment, I found out I was pregnant. We were both so happy and this is the most loving, attentive and happy I have ever seen him. Sadly, I went in for my 10 week ultrasound and the baby had stopped growing and there was no heartbeat. I ended up having an emergency D&C to stop hemorrhaging and since this ordeal, he is distant. I used to hear from him every day, every other at most and I would get messages like "hello beautiful! Have a great day" or things like "I am thinking of you". Now, days go by and conversations are initiated by me. His responses are short and I feel like he is emotionally cut off from me. I told him how damaged I feel and how this is really affecting me and he tried to reassure me that he is still on board with our family, being together, and having another baby, but his distance is making me feel like he has once again changed his mind. His personality is one where if he feels backed into a corner, he will shut down, so I have been giving him space, but I feel like I am losing him. Now that I am no longer pregnant that I am useless now.
Has anyone else had this happen to them?