I FEEL LIKE A BAD MOM!

Samantha - posted on 11/20/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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TODAY MY 5 MONTH OLD SCOOTED OUT OF HER CARSEAT AT WINGS STOP ANDFELL FACE FIRST ONTO THE HARD FLOOR! SHE DIDNT GET ANY INJURIES OR ANYTHING I JUST FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG LIKE IF I WOULD HAVE BUCKLED HER IN SHE WOULDNT HAVE FELL BUT I DIDNT KNOW THAT SHE COULD SCOOT OUT OF IT SHE NEVER DID IT BEFORE! IS THIS WHAT ALL MOMS FEEL LIKE WHEN THEIR BABIES FALL OR IS IT JUST ME!! DID I REALLY DO SOMETHING WRONG! MY SON NEVER FELL OR ANYTHING SO I DONT KNOW HOW IM SUPPOSE TO FEEL OR ANYTHING??WHAT DO YOU THINK??

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Andrea - posted on 11/20/2009

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Don't beat yourself up at all.. I wish that was all that had happened with my kids.. My son yes he fell and had is accident.. my duaghter pushed herself off the couch one day.. But what i did made me feel like the worse mom in the world.. On 10-14-09 I rolled my mini van with my two kids and myself in it.. All I could think is are my kids going to be ok when this thing stops rolling.. The screams will never leave my thoughts.. I just know that every mom has some thing that makes them feel really badly, but that is why they are called accidents... I know that some people will look at things that happen and be like i can't belive that mom let that happen.. I just do not pay attention to them... You have to stay strong and keep you head up.. When my son was learning how to walk i was always tell about the fall he had taken.. Hope this will help.. take care..

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Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2012

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Oh please don't beat yourself up. I remember once I was so tired, and I had to go somewhere and I put my baby girl in her carseat and off we went. I had to stop suddenly and guess what? I didn't get the car seat click into the base well and up turned my daughter car seat and all. I FREAKED...convinced she was damaged. Here is a little something you should know about kiddo anatomy. Their bones are soft, pliant like small tree limbs....they bounce back. Has to be something pretty major to make them break something. Kids are made this way BECAUSE they are gonna bump and scrap and fall and climb etc etc. If you are concerned , take her to the doctor just to have her checked out. But if she's not bleeding, not overly bruised, crying behavior changes, or other physical changes... chalk it up to life happening. she is ok and so are you. Try to relax mama...those kids will wiggle out of anything. I gave birth to Houdini.

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Don't beat yourself up. It happens to ALL moms at one time or another. My 4 month old son fell off of our couch the other day just because I didn't think that he could lean forward the way he did and of course he did ( he was fine thank God). With my first son, he rolled off of our bed one time because of a lack of communication with my husband (I didn't know he was even there and he walked out of the room). You just have to take it as a learning experience and move on. Make sure nothing was wrong and then you know what to do next time. Kids fall and luckily the younger they are the less fragile they are because bones haven't hardened and it sounds wrong but babies 'bounce'. As long as nothing happened to hurt them then it was just something you take information so that it doesn't happen again.

Tiare - posted on 11/20/2009

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dont be silly! it happens..... and will happen again for sure!! shes fine! dont worry!

April - posted on 11/20/2009

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You are not a bad mother!!! It happens to us all, and all children are different. What happens with your first child will not happen with your second. What happens with the first two will not be the same with your third trust me. My horrible I was a horrible mother was when my daughter was about 1 or 2 months old I had one of those strollers with the carset, I must not have lached it right or something. When I was walking her across a railroad crossing one of the wheels got stuck. and of course her carseat with her straped in went flying out of the stroller and landed upside down. This was before everyone had a cell phone. I picked her up and she started crying there is nothing like running to the hospital holding your baby because you have no way to call for help!!!!

Melissa - posted on 11/20/2009

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My son feel out of my bed when he was around 6 months or so. I freaked out and of course evrything was okay. I have heard this happen to alot of other moms. If you did not feel bad then maybe you could say bad mom. This shows that accidents happen and you are a good mom cause you care.

Lindsay - posted on 11/20/2009

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We all make mistakes. You just have to make sure the child is ok and learn from there. Don't beat yourself up about it because it can't be changed regardless. Just learn from it and move on! =)

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You will always worry about your kids Samantha even when they are grown and have young ones of their own, they will probably make mistakes and errors which makes them think they are bad parents, just as you have, rest assured hun your not the first and certainly won't be the last, it's all part of life's never ending learning curve.
Welcome to club.

Cherami - posted on 11/20/2009

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the very first time my son fell was on his back head first while playing with his cousins and i felt aweful! but now @ 19mos., he falls and get up like it never happens. i think all moms feel this way the first time around but the feeling is less tense when you know your child is okay. dont feel like an aweful mom...ur just now aware of strapping your daughter in.

Eva - posted on 11/20/2009

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i don't think you'd do anything wrong to him, but it would be wise enough to keep eyes on where he is safe enough while you are doing something. you're not only one! i took my daughter on the cart and i was talking to this lady front of the fitting room at marshalls and then my daughter just stand up of the cart seat and all the suddenly, she fell back on the floor!! she was just right front of me but i was looking away at the right to the lady but i felt like it was my fault and stupid. i felt heartbreaking when i see her cry so hard. every1 looked at me so embarrassed. they might thinking i was not paying attention carefully.but it was so quick and it never ever happened again on the cart. so learn and think twice-- become a better mom and safer for your kid.

Mary - posted on 11/20/2009

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You're not a bad mom. Babies are pretty resilient. It's a good thing, too, because they will get into tight places no matter how closely we watch over them. Just relax. I think sometimes our reactions to kids' bumps tells them it should hurt more or be a bigger deal than it really is. To illustrate my point. I remember a younger sister falling and very carefully inspecting her knee. Finally she confided in my aunt, "Good it's not bleeding, so I don't have to cry." My observation has been that the children's reactions mirror their parents' reactions. Those whose parents get the most upset over every little bump are the ones that cry inconsolably at the drop of a hat. Yes, do your best to prevent your child from getting hurt, but don't sweat it if/when it happens despite your efforts. You can't protect them from everything.

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oh girl dont feel bad, it happens to all of us sometimes multiple times.. lol just learn from it thats all you can do, your baby is fine, they're resilient.. my boys have fallen off couches, beds, a few times each.. theyre just fine and get over it quicker than we as moms do!!

Alicia - posted on 11/20/2009

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Right now it is going to feel like you are a bad mom, but you are not. I know it sucks, but just think of it as a learning experience. My daughter fell out of her highchair at home after climbing into it. I thought that my living room was a safe place for her and did not think to remove it from the room when I went to the bathroom. I was not aware that she could climb on things. She did not get hurt but was shook up. I felt the same way. Now when the highchair is not in use, it is not in the room. Don't worry there are many falls to come and believe me you are not going to be there to catch them all, it just the way it is! :)

Cory - posted on 11/20/2009

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It's funny this should be posted now. I never dropped or bumped by daughters anything. Until last weekend. We went shopping and I closed the car door on her hand. I felt like the worst parent ever. I rushed to my moms who was the closest house to where we were and she sat on my lap and held her hand like a limp limb. Then for the next 4 hours she walked around with it behind her back. I wanted to take her to the hospital but figured if we were not sick yet with the flu we would be by the time we left. 6 hours later she was have a ticking match (with both hands) with her uncle and only had a little bruising.

You are a mom, not Super Mom, but mommy and you are great, no worries - it happens in some way to all of us.

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Every baby is different and every mother is bound to make some mistakes along the way, it is just human nature. You just have to learn from the mistakes and not let them happen again. I think every mother beats their self up when something like that happens, but just remember next time and keep her buckled in at all times. Try to look at the positives and be thankful she didn't get hurt.

Ashley - posted on 11/20/2009

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When my son was only a few weeks old, I left him laying on the couch, thinking he would be fine if I went to the restroom, at that time he wasn't rolling over or hardly moving yet. Sure enough, I dont know how it happened, but when I came back he had fallen onto the floor! He didn't cry or anything and the floor was carpeted but I felt AWFUL!! Also, my husband sat on the baby once, lol. You make mistakes and learn from them. Don't feel bad :-)

Samantha - posted on 11/20/2009

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THANK YOU ALL REALLY IT MAKES ME FEEL ALOT BETTER AND THAT IM NOT A BAD MOM!

Eileen - posted on 11/20/2009

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We all feel like this when they fall...boy have i blamed myself when my boys have fallen off the bed or couch...just take extra precautions next time....it probably hurts us more than them....they say its bad luck if they never have at least one fall when they are a baby...who knows if this is true...and im not very superstitous.

Melanie - posted on 11/20/2009

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Don't feel to bad all mom make mistake's in someway or another you learn from your mistake's just buckle her in now that you know she can scoot , my daughter was 2 n a half never rolled i layed her on my bed while i showered and she rolled off the bed so i started putting her in her swing in the bathroom while i showered . but we all can thank god for our babys not getting hurt ...

Meghan - posted on 11/20/2009

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Quoting Samantha:
It's not just you when i had my daughter every  little thing scared the crap out of me. The slightest little scratch, bump, or anything along that line. I am still like that and i have three kids all girls and i think they are ten times more rough with eachother than my nephews are together. It wasn't your fault it's just the mom in us. Everytime something happens we automatically think oh my gosh it was my fault i was watching her close enough or etc. Don't feel bad it will eventually start to go away but it was always be a part of us to wonder if i was watching them closer none of this would of happened.



I FEEL LIKE A BAD MOM!

TODAY MY 5 MONTH OLD SCOOTED OUT OF HER CARSEAT AT WINGS STOP ANDFELL FACE FIRST ONTO THE HARD FLOOR! SHE DIDNT GET ANY INJURIES OR ANYTHING I JUST FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG LIKE IF I WOULD HAVE BUCKLED HER IN SHE WOULDNT HAVE FELL BUT I DIDNT KNOW THAT SHE COULD SCOOT OUT OF IT SHE NEVER DID IT BEFORE! IS THIS WHAT ALL MOMS FEEL LIKE WHEN THEIR BABIES FALL OR IS IT JUST ME!! DID I REALLY DO SOMETHING WRONG! MY SON NEVER FELL OR ANYTHING SO I DONT KNOW HOW IM SUPPOSE TO FEEL OR ANYTHING??WHAT DO YOU THINK??





 

Riarrashika - posted on 11/20/2009

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My son slid out when he was 4 months...you do feel like it's your fault but my grandmother told me that it's apart of them growing up. So you are not a bad mom things are gonna happen that we can't control...Just breathe and love her up...she will know that you are not a bad mommy

Tiffany - posted on 11/20/2009

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it won't be the last time she will get hurt...you are going to have to get used to it, you can't be there to save her from everything. She will learn what she can and can't do it will take her awhile and she will have no fear until about 2.

Kerri - posted on 11/20/2009

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Mistakes happen, babies are built for that! Do not feel bad, it was a honest mistake the good part is she is okay. Just remember next time she is a sneaky little girl and buckle her in:) Do not be to hard on your self:)

Amber - posted on 11/20/2009

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Girl NO! everyone feels like crap when their baby falls but it is bound to happen. It really sucks in public but you didn't know...now you do so buckle his little booty in there LOL. My son fell a million times when he was 18 months and under and he would get little scratches on his nose. My monster in law would always ask what happened and she would always say..."again?" like I knew he would keep falling...its normal to feel guilty...don't even sweat it, he is bound to fall other times too

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