I Feel Like A Part Time Mom :(

Faith Amber - posted on 11/16/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 12 yr old son resides in another province with his Papa..For the past 2 yrs he was in Hockey & Doing so well...this past yr he has ended up in the office more times than he can count :( He has quit Hockey, has a gf and spends alot of time just gaming out!! My question for all you Moms is what should i do?? Should I try and get him to come live with me? Im also raising my 1 yr old son and my 12 yr old comes out for a month every summer...im wondering if hes been acting up becasue neither his father or i are in his life full time!! Should i go get him and be the mother I have failed to be? ~ Feeling Guilty, Ashamed And Heart Broken

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Jodi - posted on 11/17/2015

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Given the history, it is highly likely he is acting up because you and his father have not been in his life. You can't bring a child into this world and expect he won't be damaged by your poor lifestyle choices. I get that you are clean and sober now, and that's great, but the damage has been done. When did you come back into his life and start with the summer visits? It may be this has also triggered some behaviours.

You can certainly now make the effort to be in his life more - is it possible for you to move nearer so that you can have more regular contact with him. While this won't be the fix you hope it will be, it is a start. Also, has the child ever been in counselling or therapy? I know you say you are open with him, but there may be some anger on his part that comes with that which manifests itself in these behavioural choices.

Faith Amber - posted on 11/17/2015

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Yes His Grandfather... Both his father and i were addicts....I have since recovered and living clean and sober which is why the papa has allowed summer visits. His father however, has been in and out of jail, numerous gf's and he actually just left our sons hometown as well, so im guesiing hes upset about that too :( I have also been nothing but open and honest with my son. He seems to be infacuated with gangs and doesn't really ever open up to me about anything :( So heartbreaking.

Jodi - posted on 11/16/2015

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His Papa is his grandfather? Can I ask WHY he isn't living with either you or his father? That must have a big impact on a kid.

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