I feel like an singl parent but im still with my childs father.....ADVICE PLEASE !!

Shyquita - posted on 12/20/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Ohk so i have an 11 month old son (Jaden) and me and his father are stil together we have been together for 3 1/2 years now and i feel like an single parent. I mean he's there for us we stay in our own but the problem is i dont think he gets the difference between providing and taking care of a child. He buys jaden watever he needs and more and ther same gose for me but he can literally count how many diapers he has changed and how many times he has tooken him a bath but to him it isnt a big deal. And i dont think im being selfish when i say that when i say i need a break ! Yes he do work form 5:45am to 6:00pm but i feel i think an average father work and get off work and still do their part but the most he do is play with him for a little while or put him to sleep time to time. Yes i have spoken on it SEVERAL of times but it dosent seem to do too much, Is there any advice anyone can give me or have someone gone through what ive been going through ?

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Kimberly - posted on 12/21/2012

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Hey you are not alone. I am a stay at home now because my work would not let me cut back on my hours so I had to quit. It truly has been a blessing in disguise. Anyhow, I am a stay at hone mom now and I take care of my daughter 24/7. My husband works from 10:00am-10:00pm every day. He gets two days off. He sleeps in until he goes to work so he is never up with our daughter. My husband never gets up with her at night and never has. We have had this discussion MANY times as well. When he is off he always makes plans to do something such as work on cars (he's a car nut), have lunch with the guys, play football or paintball with coworkers. When he is home he is usually take naps because he's "tired all the time" or he is on his car forums on the Internet. I've asked him many times to spend some quality time with our daughter and he says he doesn't know what to do, "she doesn't play or talk". Our daughter is almost 5 months old. It upsets me because he is missing out on so much and she is changing so much. I remind him of this often. I think as she becomes mobile he will interact more or I pray he does. I absolutely love taking care of our baby girl but I need a break too but he doesn't realize that. My "break" is going to the grocery store while he watches her. It's just not fair. So yes, you aren't alone. I feel like I'm raising our daughter on my own. On top of this, I take care of our finance, cook, clean, do laundry, do the grocery shopping, take care of our four legged kiddos. I do everything. He literally provides financially for the family, which is huge don't get me wrong, but that is it. He never helps out around the house. It's a lot and u never get a break or even a nap lol. You are not alone though. I hate to say it but I was happy to read your post because I thought I was alone. All my friends husbands help with their baby but they also have a regular work schedule (8-5). You can message me anytime you need to talk or simply want to vent. Hang in there!!

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