Jay - posted on 12/12/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a 5 year old daughter who is just so difficult! She doesn't listen to me, she yells and cries and screams when I put her in time out. I don't mean just a tantrum it sounds like someone is beating her the way she screams! In reality I just told her to go to her room and close the door. She picks on her brother who is only 1, and when I say LET GO OF HIM or LEAVE HIM ALONE she doesn't listen unless I yell at her. I hate yelling at her but she doesnt acknowledge me other wise! She does great behavior wise at school, but isn't doing well in everything from writing to coloring. You cant read what she writes (which at this point is barely her own name) and her coloring is just scribbles. I have sat with the staff at her school to try and figure out how to help her..... She can't do the most basic things like zip up her coat, button up pants, put her shoes on the proper feet every time, put her gloves on the right hands every time, pull up her pants when they're slipping she doesnt even notice they're falling down. I just want her to be happy, do well in school, and just listen!!!! She tells me she hates me, wishes she didn't live here, etc etc. It breaks my heart and over the past year I just find my self resenting her. I honestly want to cry right now explaining this. I feel so embarrassed that my child is different and I cant help her! I have worked with a lot of kids as I have been doing child care for years and I have never seen anything like this! Even at her Christmas concert I just wanted to duck my head down and die.... She wouldn't sing, she wouldnt do the moves, she just stood there or looked up at the ceiling shaking her head around. She honestly looked autistic! Not to mention she fell off the bench she was standing on and near the end was holding her self saying I need to pee. I could only think OMG I have "that kid".... I have thought of sending her away for help! Our family is so stressed with her behavior, no family activity is enjoyable. Sorry to be all over the place while writing but I have never let any of these thoughts out! PLEASE HELP! What do I do!? I want to take her to a doctor, but where I live it is so hard to even get in to see one!