April - posted on 08/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My husband does not seem to appreciate anything I do as a mother and wife, at all. I feel like I am at my wits end. I have two girls with him, one is two and a half years old and the other is thirteen months. I stay at home while he works 7am to 4pm in front of a computer desk all day. He also is in college. (I am too.) I wake up with the girls and take care of them, do naps and make the food, diapers and all that. I also manage to try and keep things as clean as I can and including dishes, floors and I occasionally do the trash. He does the trash and the laundry almost all the time, occasionally he does the yard work and handy work around the house when it gets bad enough. Since the girls were born I was always in charge of them at nights. I found this to be so unfair but he uses his sleep problems as an excuse and takes medication to sleep. He isn’t very much use at night anyways so I learned to deal with it. I have also managed to keep taking two to three college classes every semester but now this semester, because we are noticing that we are getting behind on bills so I may need to work a part-time job on top. I am getting so frustrated by the lack of appreciate he gives me at this point, that I find it hard to think that I may be able to do all of these things without having some problems or issues in any particular area. We argue on and off about this stuff all the time, chores and free time and time and now we are in a fight about how he says that what I do is not as hard as what he does, yet I beg to differ. I tell him that it is extremely hard and that it is much harder than his job and he says he is never going to believe that and I tell him that I am never going to be ok with him not accepting that what I do is way harder than him. What can I really do? I feel like we are never going to see eye to eye on anything and that our marriage is doomed.