I found out my 14 yo son not the kid I thought he was.. How could I be so blind.

Joi - posted on 12/27/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I have always bragged to everyone and was so proud of the way he turned out after losing his dad at age 7 to a heart attack. But boy was I fooled.. I ask him to see his phone an what I found was not the same kid I knew.. He was asking every girl he talk to to send naked pictures.. And some did... He was sending naked pictures.. The girls he was talking to was on probation for stealing and breaking into firework stands.. He was asking about getting some weed to smoke. He made the comment he wasn't a virgin.. Sniffing markers and smarties( the candy)..when I confronted him He swears he has never got high or had sex.. That he was trying to look cool..... So obviously he thinks this is cool... He is talking and acting like a thug, F this and F that... Cursing like a sailor, and talking to girls horrible.. He had just got his phone back 2 weeks ago bc I caught him drinking. He said that was the first time...I took his phone, made him attend an AA meeting and write a 5 page report on the effects of alcohol on teens.. He cried and said everything I wanted to hear..
In front of people, including me... He talks normal and is respectful and he makes all A's and B's plays basketball, baseball, and football. I have always gave him freedom bc I trusted him... He would always put down drugs and say he would never do them bc he has 2 uncles, 1 in prison and 1 who's lost everything due to drugs. It seems like he is the exact opposite of what he betrays to me.. So which kid is he? Is he the sweet, loving, respectful kid I know or is he that thug wanna be he portrays to all his friends? I just don't know what to do or say.. We have talks about drugs and sex and how girls should be respected... On a regular basis and he is so agreeable... Then I find all the stuff on his phone and it makes me so ashamed...
As of now life as he knew it is over.. His freedom has been revoked.. He no longer has my trust... I can't seem to get over how he has fooled me for so long and how can I get him back on track when he is such a manipulator that I can't believe anything that comes out of his mouth.. He knows what I want to hear and how to act to make me 'THINK' he's on the right path.. Any advice???

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