I gave birth at clinics before 9 months

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )

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looking to locate the fathers to ask them where they are

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/26/2014

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Another person with multiple accounts I see...

Liz, or E, or whatever you want your name to be today, I'm closing both of your posts to comments.

Hopefully you will find an attorney that can assist you in your efforts to connect with the children that you left to their fathers to raise. If not, I wish you the best of luck in moving forward with your life.

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E Norman how kids did you have? Were they all with the same father or different ones? Why did you just give birth to your kids and leave them at the clinic? Did you want to be in their lives at all? You have to prepare yourself for the fathers and children to maybe not reply or have anything to do with you when you just left them at the clinic not even waiting to make sure the fahters were even going to get them.

Sarah - posted on 02/25/2014

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Wait what does I gave birth at clinics before 9 months have to do with what you are talking about E Norman?

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2014

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If you wanted to know where your children were, maybe you shouldn't have abandoned them. After all, in another post, you totally abandoned them and you never paid child support. I wouldn't contact you back either.

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014

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Thanks. That is exactly what I am waiting for is a response either way. Iam a limited person and didn't realize what I was doing. Facebook helped me locate the fathers.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Ok, so you popped out a couple of kids, and abandoned them at the clinic? And their father(s) took full responsibility and have raised them for the last 18+ years?

And you wonder why they aren't responding to you now? Well...I'd have to say that Pop(s) maybe don't want you to hurt the kids any more than was already done by your leaving them when they were newborns!

That may be harsh, but I fail to see how a woman, someone who's put up with the burden, and gone through the labor, cannot see her way through to at the very least TRYING to be a responsible parent.

Were I the father(s), I'd probably have told the kids "The woman who birthed you would like to meet you. Do you have any desire to do so? If not, I'll understand, and I won't force it".

Michelle - posted on 02/24/2014

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I think you need to actually explain the whole situation. I'm not understanding any of this at all.

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014

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I didn't do anything but leave the place and the fathers went back to pick up the child. I've been oblivious up until now. I left messages for the fathers except they haven't responded yet. Sitting on pins and needles.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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So, were the children given up for adoption? Or you let their fathers raise them?

If it was the second, perhaps the fathers have contacted the grown children and given them the option of whether or not they wanted to meet you.

If it was an adoption situation, you'd still need to have both signed an agreement that you'd be able to contact the children later.

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014

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I know who the fathers are. They won't respond to me for my request to meet the two grown kids.

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014

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I know who the fathers are. They won't respond to me with regards to meeting them.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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If you do not know who the father of your child is, you will need to contact each sexual partner, get a DNA sample, and have tests done. We cannot do that for you.

If you don't know where they are...well, may I suggest a bit less promiscuity next time?

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