I gave my 8 & 9 yo girls the talk about their body changing.

Holly - posted on 04/02/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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It actually went easier than expected... YAY! I noticed my oldest daughter (9 yo) started growing armpit hair, and she already has began growing breasts. She's been a bit moody, so I know she will begin menstruating soon. So I wanted to have the talk before it happens, and she gets embarrassed, or freaked out. So I sat her and her sister (who is only less than a year younger) how a girls body changes and what she should be expecting, and that she should NEVER be too embarrassed to talk to me about things. I told her how she is growing armpit hair, and that hair will start growing on her privates, and that it is normal. She asked me if I have it, and I said yes. Then I told her how she will at some point see blood come out of her vagina, and that this is normal too. Then of course they asked if that happens to me, and I said yes. I am hoping I touched on this subject appropriately, this is my first talk about this... I didn't mention anything about sex though... I don't know if they are too young. Or if I should, or should I wait for them to ask? Should I tell them now? Should I wait? how did you tell your kids? or how would you tell them?

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Lakota - posted on 04/03/2013

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My mom didn't have the talk with us either. I guess it embarrassed her too much. Good luck. There are a lot of good books out there that will help open the door for your own words.

Holly - posted on 04/02/2013

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thank you girls... this advice helps... this was my first time having any kind of talk like this with them, my mother never had the talk with me, she let the school give this talk... so i was always nervous about talking to my mom about things like this... I guess she waited for us to ask and we never did. I guess i was waiting for them to ask me too, but they never did! so i guess i will work my way into talking to them about sex... now i have talked about not letting boys touch their privates, and that girls have vaginas and boys have penises... but that's about all i have ever told them, and they've known this since they were about three. And I've told them that people have sex to have a baby, but they never really asked what sex was... and that part i don't know how to explain, I guess i better invest in a book of some sort... ;P

Lakota - posted on 04/02/2013

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Hi, Holly. I think you should talk to them about sex. I started talking to my boys about their bodies when they were five and started the sex talk when they were around seven. It has been a continuous conversation with them since then (they are 13 and 16 now) because there are so many things that they need to know - birth control, diseases and how to prevent them, pregnancy, abortion, no means no, etc. Starting the talk when they are young helps them with the feelings of embarrassment also which means they will feel more comfortable asking you questions later.

Dove - posted on 04/02/2013

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We did the first real puberty talk at 7... by first reading a book (The Care And Keeping Of You... an American Girl book) together... and started sex talks at 8.5... also starting with books we read together and going from there. I was waiting for her to ask, but she didn't... and I wanted to start basic talks at that age, so that we'd have plenty of time to increase in the details before she started middle school.

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