i get bore

Neha - posted on 01/20/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my husaband sometimes work for long hours even he is busy in home also so get bored and getting depressed day by day

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McCartney - posted on 01/21/2014

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Hi Sweetie,
You see, you say you are feeling depressed when you think of yourself alone. Why? Why does being alone make you depressed? I think many times we are conditioned to believe that we must have someone else present in our lives to make us happy. What I'm trying to convey is that happiness comes from within your own heart. Being alone is good. Everyone must be alone to get to know who they really are. Ask yourself, "Who am I?" Ask yourself, "What do I like to do?" And then focus on those things.

So, here are my suggestions. When you first open your eyes in the morning, smile to yourself and tell yourself, "Today I choose joy. Today I choose to be happy. Today I will look for things that make me smile."

Get up, shower, dress, exercise by taking a walk in the fresh air. Smile up at the sun. Eat breakfast and then sit quietly and do nothing but concentrate on your breathing for a few minutes. See what pops into your mind. Figure out what interests you and find a book about that and read about it. Or if you have the means, take a class, or gather what you need to start on pursuing that interest.

For example, if would love to paint, buy some brushes, paints and canvases and do it, or look up online about painting and find out the best way to start. Or pretend during your quiet time you think about how you wish you could visit Paris. Get a book about Paris or look it up online and read about it. When you read about things, it opens your mind and soon you realize you are loving your alone time because you are growing as a person. You realize you don't need anyone around to be happy. You will begin to crave all the things you can do when you are lone, like go for walks, read, do crafts, write letters, write a song. Etc. And very important.... be grateful and positive. Do not think, "I am sad... I am all alone... woe is me." Think instead, "I am grateful to be alive. I am grateful for my family. I am grateful my husband has a job. I am grateful I have "Circle of Moms" and my computer to communicate with others. I am grateful I have hands to type, a brain to think."

I hope this helps some. I truly wish you joy. And remember, no one else can make you happy. Only you. Just like no one really makes you sad. Only you. So lift up your chin and be happy sweet lady.

McCartney Green

Neha - posted on 01/20/2014

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Hi,
McCartney Green Actually i was working before having kid bt from last 3 years i left job for my son and cannot work more for 2 years . i want to do some thing creative in life but i feel depressed when i think that i am sitting alone in home. Please suggest me how can i help myself from this how can i spend my whole day

McCartney - posted on 01/20/2014

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Hi Neha!

Sometimes we get depressed when we allow our only happiness to be supplied by someone else. Though you are married, your happiness still must come from within your own heart. Know that YOU are a beautiful and wonderful person all by yourself. Search your heart and find things that interest you and then look into them. Research your interests, read books about things that interest you. Being a writer myself, I always encourage people to read about the things that bring them joy. And if you are not sure about what brings you joy, reading will definitely help you to decide.

Once you have found some things that you really enjoy, pursue them! Usually, people are more fulfilled when they are creating something, so whether it's sketching a picture, cooking a beautiful meal, knitting a sweater, writing a story or putting together a business plan, go for it and create.

Wishing you much joy.
McCartney Green

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