Melanie - posted on 10/07/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
I knew having a teen would come with challenges and I read the books about how to manage this new relationship between mother and teen daughter but I'm having a really hard time implementing good practices. I don't like being ignored for text messages and/or social media. It drives me crazy and I want to rant and rave but from what I read, that is not healthy or productive. What do I do??? I feel like my 15 year old is running the show. Anytime I even mention backing away from screen time I am told that she needs all of this stuff for studying, etc. I get that, but where do I draw the line? Why am I scared of her???? Should not it be the other way around????
The other thing is we never talk at all anymore. About anything other than what she needs from me; and I don't know how to change that cycle.
I'm sad and angry pretty much all of the time these days. I feel guilty and stupid. I feel like I've given up everything throughout the tender growing up years (like friends, my own social identity, going out, engaging even with my husband) for nothing. I now am stuck with no friends and what feels like no daughter. It's very pathetic and I wish I could figure out how to fix it.