I HATE MY BODY!!! AM I ALONE IN FEELING THE WAY I DO

Kerrie - posted on 01/28/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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i have always had issue with my weight and always felt huge even at a size 12.

my daughter is now 13 months old and i am a size 16 after loosing a clothes size. i am on a diet and would be happy to get to a comfortable size 14. so not impossible.

however i have that saggy pouch that just wont go and i hate how my body looks... i do appreciate my body made my little girl which i would not change for anything. my sex life is almost non exixtant beacause i dont like how i look.

i worry that if i dont loose the weight i wont be able to run around with my daughter and she will miss out..

although i am pleased i am loosing weight slowly i am after any advice on loosing weight , tips etc

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Kathy - posted on 01/28/2011

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You are so not alone. You are doing good. Instead of "Dieting", just eat right. Make sure the food in the house is healthy. Whole grains, fruits, veggies, etc.. Also do your best to exercise. A 20 minute walk at least three times a week. Now you need to change the bad self-image. You have a daughter. Girls grow up with so much thrown at them about self-image and what is suppose to be pretty and what isn't. Being a mother to a pre-teen girl is HARD. I am over weight. Have been since my senior year of high school. My weight is stubbornly steady. I fluctuate sizes. So odd. My daughter has been through a range of sizes and shapes as she has grown into a teen. She has had big lows with her self-image. I HAD to be comfortable with myself so I could teach my daughter to be comfortable with herself. She is not tiny like her one friend nor is she over weight like another of her friends. She a healthy weight for her height. Not a size 2 but not a size 20. Once you can accept that you are the way you were meant to be made and then take the best care of what you have-you can and will find happiness and confidence in yourself. Stay strong and positive and remember you are a beautiful woman!! Don't let your insecurities beat you down!

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Angie - posted on 01/30/2011

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Yes, I hate my body. I dropped from a size 8 to a size 4 this year and I still have a mommy tummy that I just can't seem to work out. I lost the 25 pounds by watching everything I put in my mouth, weighing myself daily to keep myself from gaining weight, and hanging the skirt that I really wanted to wear on the front of my closet (by the way, I just wore it last night). Even with all of this, I hate my body - it's flabby and saggy and just plain gross.

User - posted on 01/30/2011

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HI I am Tania...I can totally relate..I was a size 14/ 16 after the birth of my baby and I couldn't deal with myself...I got on a raw food diet...bought young coconuts almods cashews dates avocados spinach green apple ginger....at night if I was starving I had broiled chicken breast or tilapia with lemon...in a months time I lost 25 pounds and felt so awesome...them I lost another 22 pounds and put on like 15 since.then...and I don't feel that great...I am trying now to be a size 6 and your post inspires me to start the raw diet again....if you have any questions you can find me at www.findinginnerhappiness.com....don't get intimidated by who I am or what I do....I have the same feelings as you.....all the best...
ps....if you send me an email or call me I will tell you more tips on the raw diet I did....like soaking almonds....not having any salt...a drink that increases the metabolism....

I totally believe that you can and you will reach your optimal weight and have the energy and vitality that you so desire...You are amazing for having and sharing your feelings.
love
Tania

Lissa - posted on 01/29/2011

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I didn't like the way I looked for a long time, then I lost weight was down to a UK size 8. Let me tell you I have never felt so unattractive in my life as I did at a size 8, I felt so horribly thin and that all my bones were sticking out, I wore anything that would cover me up. I realised then it was never about the actual weight or body shape it was how I perceived myself and until I got happy about me it wouldn't matter what size I was.
So along with losing weight join something that will also boost your confidence and make you feel good. Maybe a salsa class, belly dancing something that will make you feel positive about yourself and your body.

OLGA - posted on 01/29/2011

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HEY GIRL I FEEL YA,,,BUT U NEED TO LOVE URSELF IN EVERY WHICH WAY U CAN, LEARN TO ACCEPT URSELF,,BE HAPPY WITH WHO U R...UR SELF ESTEEM MUST BE BOOSTED UP FOR UR DAUGHTER WILL GET OLDER & SEE WAT U GO THRU & SHE ALSO WILL FEEL THAT WAY.....U NEED TO BE WHO U REALLY WANT 2 BE..HAS UR HUSBAND TELL U ANYTHIN BAD ABOUT UR BODY CAUSE IF HE HASNT TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT....IF HE SAY THAT U LOOK UGLY THEN HE HAS A PROBLEM .....TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/28/2011

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Come and join us...a bunch of women that need to lose weight and enjoy the support of others. We are not always super active on it, but we are always around. I have a significant amount to lose post baby...many of us do. We are always looking for new members, and we already have some great info up...

Christy - posted on 01/28/2011

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Can you join a gym? Take exercise classes (if offered) through the city you live in? Join the YMCA? Exercise is a god thing if you aren't doing it already. Even 30 minutes of walking is good for you. And you can take your baby with you in a stroller! Or you can get a treadmill and use it when baby is asleep, or when the weather outside is bad. Try to get to a healthy size. If you can get in shape, it will benefit you in the long run since you will be running after your baby in no time!

Louise - posted on 01/28/2011

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I know how you feel I really do. I have three children and all three of them were 10lbs and I gained on average 5 stone each child and after dieting with each child I seemed unable to shift the last stone. I also had a baby 17 years after I had my first and the last pregnancy really punished my body. I also have a puch which I can not shift and it looks awful in trousers as it bulges and just sticks out. I have tried alsorts of exercise to shift it but to no avail. It is just the excess skin from all the babies and it will not shift or change in shape. I have just learnt to disguise it with what I wear and unless I win the lottery and have a tummy tuck I am stuck with it.

My advice to you is don't get hung up about it all us women have baby scars whether it is pouchy bellies or stretch marks. Just remember that your husband loves you, all of you pouchy belly and all. Don't push him away all the time buy some sexy underwear that you feel good in and have a great time!

Rosie - posted on 01/28/2011

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Personally I think that we are prepared for the changes our body goes through once we are pregnant but, nobody tells us how hard it will be to get back to any form of "normal sizing again". However, in saying that I am glad that you mentioned that you are happy that your body made your beautiful little girl.
I think what you are doing is great because you are choosing to do it slowly which usually has more benefits in the long run.....from what i have read sex looses more calarioes in a day than what running does...lol

Just keep doing what you are doing and remeber that your body has changed and you have changed but you can still love who you are.

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you are definately not alone. I am heavier now than I have ever been and can't seem to find the motivation/ inclination to excercise. Then I feel depressed because as a single mum I would like to look good to help me meet someone. So you are definately not alone in hating your the way your body looks.

Hayley - posted on 01/28/2011

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You're not alone...hate my body too :( I fell pregnant with my first 5 years ago and I weighed 10 stone. About 6 months ago I weighed nearly 20 stone but have managed to loose three just by creating a calorie deficit and moving a lot more plus going for a run twice a week.
Trouble is because of my massive weight gain in such a small amount of time, my body will never go back to the way it was. Still, I'd rather be slimmer & healthier than waddling around the size I am now lol :)

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