i hate my husband...

Bianca - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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does neone else feel like they cant stand their husband ever since u got pregnant? i get so short with him, and it seems like the smallest thing he does pisses me off for the rest of the day...lol maybe its because im having a girl and its that extra extrogen thats doing it... =]

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Sharalyn - posted on 11/21/2009

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Its pregnancy. i was the same way. they seem so inconsiderate when you're pregnant right!? don't worry. this too shall pass. just let him know how you feel, what he does to irratate you and that you don't appreciate the side comments, little things or him being annoying on purpose. its rude, inconsiderate, annoying and it will make you hate him even more than you do now. =D hope this helps.

Melanie - posted on 11/19/2009

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As soon as I hit 5 months pregnant i hated my husband for some reason i would argue with him constantly. It all went away when our daughter was born. I didn't have those feelings when i was pregnant on my son (strange i know). Maybe it's just being pregnant with girls makes us hate men xx

Charmaine - posted on 08/10/2014

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Hi everyone! Im 3 months pregnant right now and Im getting pissed off by my husband easily.. I love him but I get so irritated with him. We dont know yet the gender of our baby but I guess im carrying a baby girl because I get mad easily. because when im not ye pregnant im not like this to him.

Loni - posted on 11/21/2009

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When I was pregnant with our daughter, I was irritated at my hubby throughout the pregnancy. He did try to accomodate my needs as much as he could. Esp when I was so big I could barely get up without breaking a sweat! It seems that my views on him changed more AFTER the baby was born. I resented him b/c it seemed like he went on with his normal life, whereas my entire life had changed! Of course it's a man thing too. They just don't get what its like to be a mom.

I think the biggest issue I have with him is that I feel that he is being so selfish all the time. I think alot of that my be a little jelousy b/c here I am having to be completely Self-less, when part of me misses being able to do what I wanted when I wanted. Although, I wouldn't trade my daugter for all the time in the world!!!

I guess we just have to be patient with our hubby's and keep communication flowing. It's a very hard road to travel, just hang in there. Good luck to you!

Lailani1986 - posted on 10/12/2012

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Im so glad im not the only one. Im in a polygamous marriage and now I am so happy he's gone half the week I even encourage him to stay there sometimes lol. I dont know what it is but when I think about him I dont think good thoughts and most of the time id rather him not be around so I dont have to deal with my emotions as much. He's always apologizing but he's not doing anything wrong-its me who's moody/irritable/sarcastic. Ugh writing this makes me hate myself lol. The pregnancy is fine the only reason I cant wait for her to be born is so I wont be such a downer anymore-I think I look better when I smile:)

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Christina - posted on 09/01/2012

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My kids are 7 and 2 and I still hate my husband lol



No, I'm just kidding, I love my husband. HOWEVER, it is very important to make alone time a priority otherwise you will get lost in the lovely world of parenting and eventually forget why the two of you got together in the first place. Sounds cliche, but it's very important to rekindle the love... relight the flame... whatever you want to call it, however you want to do it... whether it's going a date night once a month, going on a couples retreat once a year, or even something as simple as jumping into the sack with a bottle of wine :)

Jessica Marie - posted on 09/01/2012

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I hope the harsh feelings do go away after the babys born, i got a bout a mo left... this is my 3d child; my 1st 2 were w someone else n i never had these problems... i had a girl then a boy. Now im pregnant w a boy n everything my man does bothers me; n i mean everything... i thought it must really be him, but maybe its actually this pregnancy?! Idk, i just feel hes rude n lazy @ home... hes an electrician n works alot of hrs, im on bedrest n high-risk, i am beat before i even start doin anything... i bitch all the time, he ignores it, n its only getting worse. i feel like i cant wait till the babys born so i can get the house back in order but at the same time, im gonna need sum time to heal... idk, my mind is sheer chaos anymore & the nursery is already finished... so... hopefully things do get greater later cuz i dislike disliking my other 1/2...

Adrijana - posted on 11/20/2009

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I had a girl and when i was pregnant with her I had a VERY strong sense of smell. It's strong anyways but with pregnancy it was tenfold. I never hated my husband though. I didnt' like him every once in a while if he was being selfish, with good reason obviously, but for the most part he was wonderful and I didn't hate him at all. UNTIL, labor came and he was snoring on the couch in the LDR and he left the stupid TV on some show I hated and I couldn't get up to turn the channel. Then I hated him for real. It passed though after he acted like a lion protecting his cub when they whisked our little baby girl to the nursery to check everything out since I had to have an emergency C-Section.

Simone - posted on 11/19/2009

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i feel you, i was like that when i was pregnant. we didn't no want we were having and i had a girl. lol, i couldn't stand anything about him, his walk, how he talked, everything, but then in the next minute, i wanted him around me the works. but now we have baby, and guess what? she's a stamp of her father... they say, when you don't like your partner when your pregnant the baby comes out looking like that person.

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I have 4 children...2 girls and 2 boys....with the girls I was an emotional wreck, and hated everyone! With the boys I was easy going.....and liked everyone. I swear there was a difference. You will be fine once baby is here and is in your arms, if you do have problems afterwards with depression..not feeling yourself make sure you tell the Dr. so they can evaluate you for post partum. I got it really badly with my first daughter! I hope your back to your old self soon. Good luck with your pregnancy:)

Debra - posted on 11/19/2009

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I vaguely remember screaming to my husband how much I hated him when I was in labor and he swears I used to talk in my sleep about hating him as well when I was pregnant.

Jennifer - posted on 11/19/2009

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lol You may be so right, I am prego with my second and my first pregnancy, I loved being close to my hubby but now this baby has me running from his touch!!!! I get so irritated and don't want to be touched and he tries so hard, I should love that but it just infuriates me more!! But it's that way with people in general, I just feel blah or irrated, I can't get excited, I find it so frustrating and sad cuz I'm happy I'm prego :) Hope you don't feel alone, reading yor note made me feel more sane :)

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I had a friend when she was pregnant that had an immensly high sense of smell. Her husband was the unfortunate target of this problem. He changed his shampoo, colonge, deoderant...anything that would make him smell different...she just couldn't stand the smell of him. When the baby was born..it went away. I think that some things change when we carry babies...some of it isn't so pleasant. But, it will get better. Yes, we all get a lot more testy about things when we are pregnant. Husbands sometimes get the brunt of that. Hang in there, it will get better.

Genevive - posted on 11/19/2009

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hehehe.i thought i was the only one.i hated myn with a passion.i would fight with him for no reason.i would force him to take a bath mo than thrice a day,he had tha worst smell that i couldnt stand and i wouldnt let him cook in tha house.he had 2 eat in tha restaurant whateva he cooked just mde me vomit and so much more.am lucky he understood that it was just my hormones we do laugh about it now that our lovely daughter is around!

Michelle - posted on 11/19/2009

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lol i'm having a girl too and i get so annoyed with my husband over EVERYTHING .. probably is just the extra estrogen lol because when i was pregnant with our son i was always happy and we never fought .. just try to take a breath and look at little girl stuff .. looking in her closet and seeing pink clothes always makes me happy :) or take a shower .. that's relaxing too

Talia - posted on 11/19/2009

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I am having a boy, and I don't feel that way. There are times I get upset with him over small things, but those usually don't last very long. We have a lot of hormones running through our body, so that is understandable!

Brittany - posted on 11/19/2009

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Oh yea. I could not stand mine while i was pregnant but as soon as i had my little girl al the feelings disappeared.

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