I have 100% sole custody and placement......visitation for him??

Elisabeth - posted on 02/15/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My child is 2 years old and her father wasnt there for the first 7 months and have been in and out of her life. He was consistant for a little bit and than when he isnt again he has every excuse in the book. He isnt allowed to be alone with her at all.This last time he was gone for three weeks and i am so sick of it. It hurts my child and I can see thats. He also tells her very inappropriate things that are sexual and mean things about me. I dont know what to do. No where in the court papers does it say he has visitation but it is just and automatic rule that he does. The other problem i have with him that even when he is here he neglects her. I have to tell him him when to change diaper what to feed her and whens nap and bath time. I feel like im watching two kids. I was thinking about taking hime back to court to take away visitation nut i dont really even know if he has any. Please any advise would be awesome.

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Kyla - posted on 02/17/2014

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If there is no where in the paper work that says he doesn't have visitation don't allow him to see the child. Being that there are no times listed I would think that he doesn't have rights to see the child. I would not repeat would not bring him to court the paper work is in your favor being that there are no times set up for visitation. If you would bring him to court they will set up times a days.The ball is in your court, now you have to make the decision on if you want him to see the child or not. Your child is very young and does not understand what is going on. You already see the pattern of the father. Do you want this to happen for the rest of the child's life or do you want to fix it now. You ha e to be the one to decide.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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Well, if the court is likely to allow supervised visitation, you need a court appointed supervisor. This way, you have an independent person who can testify to this and recommend in relation to the child.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/18/2014

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You don't have any right to withhold visitation, and it seems that you don't have your story straight anyway.

Get back into court, get it laid out in legal documents that you both can understand.

Now, as far as conversations...Well, since I haven't heard them, all I can say is children repeat what they hear, not just from their parents. There is a possibility that she didn't hear 'shit' (or whatever) specifically from him...

And, he's her parent, just as much as you are. Do you touch her genitals, and speak about them?

Ev - posted on 02/15/2014

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I have to agree with Jodi about this. Unless you got proof that shows this stuff going on, there is not much you can do about it. Also, in the first posting you said he had no visitation set up and in a later one he has supervised since some court date you had. That confuses me. If he was seeing the child before that court date then he must have had some visitation set up. I think you do need to go back to court and get it fixed.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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As I said, all you can do is take it back to court with your evidence. However, you still haven't said what he is saying. The court needs to be satisfied that he is a danger (either emotionally or physically) to his child if you want them to order no visitation.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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Well, you need to go back to court then, and establish supervised visitation only. By all means, you could just tell him no, but he could also just take you to court and claim parental alienation, so you are far better off collecting the evidence and getting it spelled out in a court order.

Elisabeth - posted on 02/15/2014

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I do keep a diary on what goes on. No were in the court papers even says he has visitation. Also tell the things he does to the 2 year old is wrong.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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You don't get to "take away visitation" just because he isn't regular. The court is unlikely to remove all visitation unless there is abuse. I don't know what these inappropriate sexual and mean things he is saying - you need some evidence if he is doing the wrong thing on visits. Keep a diary. Unfortunately this isn't about how you feel, this is about the evidence in court, and the fact that the courts do support relationships with both parents.

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