I have 2 daughters both with birthdays in May. Good idea to have a party together or not?

Bobbi-Jo - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




Jorga will be turning 5 and Maggie will be 2. I will be inviting Jorga's preschool friends and some of those friends have younger brothers/sisters that are Maggie's age. Maggie does not play with these children, but sees them on a regular basis when picking up her sister from school. I would like to invite them with telling the parents that they do not have to buy 2 gifts. The older kids are there for Jorga's party, and could buy for her if they choose to do so, but are not expected to bring anything for Maggie. I would like opinions on whether or not that seems ok to you.


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Leanne - posted on 04/13/2010




I think it is ok but make sure they agree on the theme together and make them each feel special by each having their OWN CAKE and sang to SEPERATELY. :)

Erin - posted on 04/13/2010




My sister and I both have May birthdays. I'm at the beginning of the month; she is at the end (usually over Memorial Day weekend). Since hers was so late and we were usually out of town during that time, my parents often had one big party for our friends to come to. On our special day, we opened family presents and cards. That was when we had our cake as well. During the parties, when it was time for cake and presents, my parents split us into our age groups. I think it would take a bit more planning, but I had no hard feelings about it and I don't think my sister does either.

Alicia - posted on 04/13/2010




I have two boys who have birthdays in February, they are 10 days apart. Also two more boys who have birthdays in April that are 4 days apart. We pick a weekend for a party for both with family and friends. But on their day we take them to dinner or something that they want to do. So they share a big party, but they still get their special day on their day. We have not had any complaints with the way we have been doing it.

Tran - posted on 04/13/2010




My lil sister and I had the same birthday but one year apart. As kids, to save money as it was hard times, mum use to celebrate our birthday together. One cake, two names and one candle. Most of the times I didn't mind it, except when ppl only came with one b'day present and ofcourse it was 'hers'. Being the older sister, I usually let it be. But remembering back, it wasn't all that fair. One birthday is fun and does save money, but do make sure there is something special for each birthday girl/boy. :O)

TRACY - posted on 04/12/2010




my cousin has two girls one in april one in may she does both her kids together ones gonna be four the other will be 2years old it works out...my sister in law does the same thing her daughters birthdays r in june and august...

Bobbi-Jo - posted on 04/12/2010




Jorga's is on the 15th and Maggie's is the 30th. Jorga said she didn't mind having to share. I will do each their own special celebration on their actual birthday's, but having 1 party seems to be the way to go. And I do agree that as they do get older, they will each have their own special party =) Thank you everyone for your comments.

Jodi - posted on 04/12/2010




My mum shares the actual birthday with her sister, who is 7 years younger. While as an adult, she loves it, she has told us stories of how much she HATED sharing a birthday with her sister because they had to have the same party.......

I think that while they are this young, it probably won't matter so much, but in a couple of years, you really should separate the parties.

However, Kristine has a good point, making sure the celebration on the actual day is unique may counteract a joint party.

How close are the actual birthdays? You only mention they are both in May. If one is at the beginning, and one at the end, they probably should be separate.

Kimberly - posted on 04/12/2010




Both of my sister's kids have birthdays in may. They were a year and a week apart. As long as the kids are ok with it, it's a great money and time saver.
As they get older, I would do them seperately. Every kid needs to feel like they have something special that is just theirs

Kristine - posted on 04/12/2010




My sister and I always had our parties together as they were only 6 days apart. I always enjoyed it and so did she. As adults we still celebrate together and her oldest daughter and I also share a birthday. My parents always made our party special, we each had our own cake but everything else was together and we have very fond memories of them. On our actual birthday though we were the princess for the day. We picked the meals for the family, always got to sit in the front seat etc.

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I think a joint party is okay. Both of my girls have birthdays in September and their birthdays are only 2 days apart. We will have a joint party, but we will have 2 cakes and sing happy birthday 2x. I don't see any way around it. We have a big back yard and will have age appropriate toys for each age group. Maybe you could even have a party for Maggie, then let Jorga have a sleepover that night. That way they each get their time, but the other kids' parents won't be going back and forth for 2 different parties. Good luck!!!

Rachel - posted on 04/12/2010




my daughter turned 2 on the 22nd march this year and my son was born on the 8th march this year, and as my son was only 2 weeks when my daughter turned 2 we didnt need to worry bout them sharing a birthday but in my family you get a party when you are 1 and 2 then only on the big numbers like 5, 13, 16, 18, 21 ect. but if i had to have a party for the both of them becoz of money and things like that i would

Tanya - posted on 04/12/2010




I think they each deserve there day.. I say no sharing birthdays unless they were twins. Even if you just have the family for Maggie's birthday because she is younger she will be happy with a small get together with a cake and presents.

I had two cousins who's birthday's were a week apart they were the same age and there parents did every party together they shared birthday's, baptism, communion, graduation everything nothing was ever there's they never said anything to there parents but they hated that they never had a special day to themselfs.. I think each kid should have that special feeling.

Michelle - posted on 04/12/2010




I understand your dilemma. However, I wouldnt have both birthdays at the same time. Each child deserves their birthday to be their day and shouldnt have to share it with anyone else. I understand it may be a hassle to do 2 birthday parties....but it doesnt have to be a huge blowout of a party.

On the flip side, since Maggie is only turning 2 and she will probably not really care too much about sharing a birthday party...then go for it....but only if your other daughter is alright with it as well. Just know that there will come a time when they want their special day all to themselves.

Alison - posted on 04/12/2010




If Jorga is ok with it, go for it!

I'm pretty sure that I would have hated that as a kid, because I wanted my special day to be MY special day. But some kids are more generous than me. :)

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