I have a 15 yr old daughter or is angry all the time. Her lastest stunt was to write STAY OUT on her bedroom door with permenant marker. How should i deal with this one?
Jodi - posted on 11/11/2012
It's not much information to go on, but I do agree that you need to get to the bottom of why she is angry. But having experienced teenage hormones, your description doesn't really tell me whether this is normal teenage behaviour (teenagers are notoriously hormonal) or whether it is more than that.
However, I'd probably remove the door for a week or so and let her know she'll have to do without it while you get the permanent marker cleaned off (consequences to her actions), and that if she wants you to stay out of her room, she needs to make sure she keeps it tidy and maintains respect for it.
Amanda - posted on 11/11/2012
I am assuming she does not want to talk to you, so you don't actually know what's going on with her, correct? I would advise that you contact the counselors at her school and ask one of them to see her. They cannot tell her who advised she be seen, and then the counselor might be able to get something from her that can help you. While the counselor most likely can tell you what she says, remember it will be a slippery slope if you choose to disclose what the counselor tells you. Be careful.
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